Expect The Best

Photo Credit: reuters.com
Photo Credit: reuters.com
So many times we get from life and from others, exactly what we expect. You see, the way we see people, objects or situations affects the way we treat them, and the way we treat them affects the way they behave. So our spouses, partners, children, relatives, co-workers, employees, bosses, classmates etc treat us the way they do because we expect them to be so. – the “Pygmalion effect.”

According to Greek mythology; Pygmalion was a Cypriot sculptor who carved a woman out of ivory, and fell in love with his creation because it was fair and beautiful. One day after repeated sacrifices, prayers, and wishes that his creation could become a living being, the god Aphrodite gave life to the stature, granting his wish…This brought about the origin of Pygmalion effect. The Pygmalion effect rests on the concept that “what we see reflected on many objects, situations, or persons, is what we put there with our own expectation. We create images of how things should be, and if these images are believed, they become self fulfilling prophecies.”

Often, I hear people say “I plan for the best and prepare for the worst.” Folks, when you prepare for the worst, it means you actually expect the worst to come. The Bible says, “….and thine expectation shall not be cut off.” So we always get what we expect. You always find what you look for in life. If you go about looking for the negatives instead of the positives in your marriage, relationship, work, health, school etc, you will find loads of things to complain about.

If you expect every man or woman wanting to be in a relationship with you to be a cheat, or become abusive, you won’t be disappointed at all.
“You can take the most outstanding man or woman, husband or wife, boy or girl imaginable, criticize them to death, and manage to find some fault in them or you can take the average man or woman and start looking for the good qualities, and you will find them in abundance.” Life gives you what you look for.
You can take your marriage and relationships and find many good things you like and and you are grateful for, or a number of things you don’t like. “Seek and you shall find”. Also, you can take your job or your company and find many good things you like, or a number of things you hate. Life gives you what you look for.

Folks, “the more good or bad you find in yourself, your mate, your job, your kids, your country, your church or your future, the more good or bad there will be to find.

Always look for the gold in everything. Expect the best from yourself and others!

4 thoughts on “Expect The Best”

  1. This is really a great post. In-fact it is a determining factor as to how we end up in life. I’ve had several experiences along this line…I can say of a truth that this rule works. The way we see things affects the way they turn out for us. What do we expect? Great question. I’m glad to have come by this great blog. Thank you sir.



  2. Really interesting post. I look forward to following it, and to better understand a man’s perspective! And thank you, Vince, for signing up for my post, elect2care. I hope you find it as interesting as is yours!


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