Fate, circumstances, or other people may help you discover love, and from there a love affair starts that may end up in marriage, but fate, circumstances, or people cannot guarantee how happy that relationship or marriage turns out to be. Just like a wise man once put it; “No man ever gained a happy life by chance, or yawned it into being with a wish.”
Yet there are many of us who falsely believe that dating or marrying the person you love is an automatic ticket to a life of happiness, only to discover later on that that happiness in relationships and marriages, must be worked for; must be earned by patient endurance, self-restraint, and an accommodation for the likes and dislikes of your partner.
The reason why there seem to be many tales of unhappiness in relationships and marriages is because many of us expect to find happiness without taking any trouble to make it, or we become so selfishly preoccupied that we cannot enjoy our relationships.
Happiness in love relationships can only be achieved through continuous sacrifice. We fall in love, and get married to end our misery, yet we become more miserable in our relationships, because many of us ignore the law of “self-sacrifice” which operates in all things God created. The law, that states that; it is more blessed to give than to receive. Many of us believe that just because we are in a love relationship, we now have a right to so much service, care, and tenderness from those who love us, instead of asking how much service, care, and tenderness we can also give.
Yet another way to stay happy in your relationship and marriage is to avoid the “the little foxes that spoil the vine”. Avoid fault-finding, bothering, boring, and other tormenting habits. We may consider these, little things, but nothing produces much misery in relationships in my opinion as these little faults if unchecked. Finally, you may do everything right, and still experience unhappiness in your relationships and marriages if you leave God out. Remember, “It is not only in times of danger and distress that we want God’s presence, but in the time of our well-being, when all goes merry as a marriage bell. Live away from Him, and the happiness you enjoy today may become your misery tomorrow.”