How to Become a Wife: 9 Things Men consider When choosing a Wife

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A friend asked me recently, “Why are there so many eligible Bachelors around? I mean there are many men who have everything going for them yet they are still single…why?” In answering her question, I referred her to the following words from the sages; “Whether a man shall be made or marred by marriage greatly depends upon the choice he makes of a wife.”  “Nothing is better than a good woman nor anything worse than a bad one. Before taking the irrevocable step choose well, for your choice though brief is yet endless.”

Men are always careful about the choice of their wives. That is why you find that a man may go out with just any kind of lady, even shower her with the most expensive of gifts, yet abandon her to marry one who isn’t as exposed, as beautiful, as well connected, as educated as the one he was dating.

In choosing a wife, there are many things a man looks out for, but these 9 stand out:

  1. A wise man doesn’t marry for beauty and good looks alone, because as we know it, even gold when seen everyday becomes commonplace, so does the most beautiful face, unless the woman possesses a beautiful nature in her.
  2. Men do not choose talkative women, and ladies who cannot keep their secrets.
  3. Any woman who cannot rely on reason to solve the daily difficulties in a relationship, and who cannot be seen as her man’s best friend, would hinder rather than help her man grow.
  4. In marriage and love relationships, attributes such as gentleness, patience, generosity, loyalty, love, are far more valuable to a man than any personal attractions or social class, or intellectual accomplishments of a lady. As most happily married men attest, these qualities contribute more to their happiness in the home.
  5. The way a lady dresses is one of the ways that reveals her character according to psychologists. Any refined, “wife material” woman, will not dress up garishly and tastelessly with a view to display herself.
  6. A man wants a good tempered woman, although it is a very difficult thing to discover from a lady, as women have a way hiding their tempers in a smiling face.
  7. Everyman wants to marry an industrious woman especially during these harsh economic times. “A lazy mistress makes lazy servants, and, what is worse, a lazy mother makes lazy children.”
  8. While a man will spend on you, and show you love with his money, Men still want that woman who is frugal, and has the power to abstain from unnecessary expenditure.
  9. A woman who  fears God, and is prayerful is a treasure to the man.

Although this list isn’t exhaustive, I have decided to limit it to the qualities spelled out by the Wise Teacher in proverbs 31:10-31 – the virtuous woman. You might be thinking that maybe all a man may consider when thinking of a wife might be; beauty, wealth, sophistication, talent and other physical qualities.

While those may count, they aren’t all men seek. Most times they look for the good, sensible, and affectionate woman. Because as a wise man once noted, “…that man takes to himself one of the bitterest of earth’s curses who marries carelessly instead of seeking with all diligence for those qualities in a wife that are the foundation of lasting happiness.”

 

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19 thoughts on “How to Become a Wife: 9 Things Men consider When choosing a Wife”

  1. Thoughtful one Egoro.I will rather stay unmarried foreva than marry a beauty queen wit bad “character”.
    IsBBip tony

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  2. infat i really enjoy the reading of this advice,why is because am one of the victim but as i got this reading i discover that iam waisting my time by waiting for the beautiful one,but in other way round there are some women who normally hide them self until geting married the moment them got what d need,d started showing the black collor that was hiding for a long time for me i think that is the wost so far although i keep on praying that GOD should give me d best that’s all, gud day sir for ur teaching us the single thatnk u very must may GOD bless you.

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  3. I didn’t find any of these things spelled out in Proverbs like you had mentioned. Also, these characteristics should apply to both men and women, as men must prove themselves worthy of marriage just as much as women must.

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    1. Great! You are right, Men need to prove themselves too. Proverbs 31…My understanding may differ from yours you know…Its the Spirit that gives the understanding of His word. I really do appreciate your thoughts. Blessings!

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