Choose Your Friends

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Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm – Proverbs 13:10

As I ponder on the above scriptures, I cannot help but wonder if many of us realize that much of success or failure in life depends on the choice of our friends and associates. There are many of us who don’t give much thought on the choice of our friends, whereas friends play a very important role in determining how far up or low we go in life. When keeping friends remember this as a rule: friends have the tendency of drawing you to their level. You cannot desire a happy marriage and be having as friends, people who are not faithful in their marriages. You cannot desire a closer walk with God, yet all your friends don’t serve Him. If you mix with people who are idle you will tend to become idle. Take a look at your life this very moment and ask yourself honestly about your friends: “What have I gained since I started mixing with these people?” Folks, if you cannot gain anything positive from your association with somebody, it is a complete waste of time to know him/her. Life is too short to waste time with people who are taking you know where.

If you want to be successful, mix with people who have achieved higher success than you dream of. Make friends with people who are more knowledgeable than you, people who can help you develop in areas where you are lacking. Associate only with those whose minds are worth measuring your own against. Be sure that if you make friends with people who waste their time, who have no plans and dreams for their lives, they will drag you down to their level. Consider seriously the benefits of every relationship you enter into. If you will not become a better person for being friends with someone, drop his acquaintance.

7 thoughts on “Choose Your Friends”

  1. Reminds me of the phrase “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” So very true, that we become like who we spend our time with. Thanks for this!


  2. I realized this the past few years and have thus stopped contact with lots of people. One prime example of this is my freshmen year of high school. I took a photo/video class because I love photography. I was super excited and dedicated to all of the work. Then I started talking to the people who sat around me (who lacked any sort of motivation). So what happened to me? I still got my work in, but I gave it little to no mind. I started talking all hour and goofing around. If I would’ve just kept to myself I would’ve probably got a lot more out of that class.


  3. God calls us into his likeness. Who are we to scoff others? If we can’t encourage a soul who is down, or decide to mix with only other Christians, that’s not anything of who God is. What happened to loving others, including “enemies” at the most dramatic? Why are you reserving yourself and excluding others? That’s judgment. Whatever happened to an example if unconditional love and a witness of what it means to know God and share the story of he grace? I just can’t agree with this post. God is our refuge and strength. Not the friends we choose.


    1. Thank you so much JennChristie, for sharing your thoughts here. I really appreciate this new insight you’ve shared. Blessings!


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