There’s one common thing about people who are not doing well, or struggling financially, emotionally and generally failing in life – they don’t accept responsibility for their actions when things go wrong. I know this because I had been doing this – always ready to point my fingers at someone for any misadventure or any failure I encounter on my part. And I have noticed that it wasn’t just me, it is as become a norm in our society. You find people citizens blaming the government, and the government is always shifting their blames on the West and the developed nations for conspiring against them.
When things go wrong with us, when we miss our aims in life, most of the time you find people looking for something or someone to blame. But as a friend pointed out to me recently, blaming others for our problems and defeats in life started way back in the Garden of Eden, when God asked Adam what he had done, he said it was Eve’s fault. Then when God questioned Eve, she blamed it on the Snake.
Today when children fail examination in school, they blame it on the teachers and or the examiners. When people fail interviews or get passed on for promotion in their jobs, they blame it on their bosses. – You hear them say “my boss doesn’t like me”, or “my boss is tribalistic or partial” and so on. When peoples business are not doing well, and the prosperity they hoped to get isn’t coming, they blame it on other people – their aged parents, Uncles, Aunties, or other family who are bewitching them. When someone who clearly isn’t eating healthy foods, or living a healthy lifestyle falls sick, the blame goes to the Witches and Wizards from their communities and families.
We even blame deaths on others – in our Society, people don’t die natural deaths anymore. even when it is medically proven that the deceased actions or carelessness led to his/her death, it is common place to look for someone to lay the blame on.
Friends you can’t be successful in life when you don’t develop the habits of accepting responsibility when things go wrong in your life. Asking who, and always looking outside yourself when things go wrong in is a very wrong way to deal with problems, and a key failure habit.
People who blame others for their failures never overcome them. They move from one problem to the other, and as a result, they never experience success. To live your greatest life, you must continually improve yourself, and you can’t do that if you don’t take responsibility for your actions and inactions, as well as learn from your mistakes.