There are times in life when it takes a lot more courage and strength to do nothing than it is required to take action. Sometimes the best evidence of power is often found in one’s ability to maintain composure in times of distress, conflicts or negativity. But the world, our ego expects a reaction from us whenever we are attacked or confronted negatively.
We are termed tough, brave, courageous, when we attack back or respond in equal terms each time we are hurt by others, while we are often looked upon as cowards, weak, or timid etc, when we walk away from provocations and keep quiet in the face of harsh criticism.
Oh how many lives have been lost, how many marriages and relationships have been broken, and careers shattered, simply because of the need to revenge, the lack of self-restraint in the face of opposition and…
“Everyone wants to be good but not many people are prepared to make the sacrifices it takes to become great.”
One thing I have discovered today is most people want to succeed, they want the good life but they don’t want the process. Maybe it’s because we live in a society where instant foods and products are being sold, most of us now think we can have instant success.
Guys forget what the media is selling to you daily, there isn’t any overnight or instant success out there. If you want to achieve success at anything or field in your life you need to understand that it is going to involve loads of work and it is going to take awhile.
The old saying nothing good comes easy is very through as you will have to work and push your way through. But this is what stops most people; we don’t want to be uncomfortable. We don’t want our makeup ruined; we don’t want to get dirty. We want a quick and stress-free path to success and unfortunately there is none. Folks don’t get me wrong I too would love to have an easy way and I’d love to skip over the hard process and stuff but it just doesn’t work that way. Continue reading Success is The Result of A Process→
A great poet, Alfred Lord Tennyson, wrote a poem called Ulysses. In which he stated, “I am part of who I met.” I have found this to be the absolute truth to all of us; we have been influenced by our schools, every sermon or teaching in our religious institutions, every conversation we heard, or the books we read, every person who has touched our lives has left an impression on our characters, and we become just like the people we associate with most of the time.
Our environments, our associations, have a great impact in our lives, whether we know this or not. Many of us rise or fall according to the people around us, or the places we live. If you look at the lives of people who have failed to move up in life, people who are living mediocre lives, you will discover that they are where…
I was taking a stroll around the estate I live recently when I heard some loud screams coming from one of the buildings within, out of curiosity I paused my walk and listened. From what I could make it was a father and daughter argument, with the father threathening hell and brimstone on the daughter. In his own words the man was saying, “You are a disgrace to my name, a big disappointment and I really wished you weren’t my child. After all the investments and sacrifice I have made to give you a good life, all you can come up with is that you are pregnant?”
As I walked back home, I thought of that girl, and others like her who have been abused and shamed by their parents, family, friends, community, or churches because of the sins and mistakes they made with their lives. I thought about the angry father and others like him, and asked, has he been perfect all his life? Hasn’t he been making mistakes? What if God treated us the way we all deserved? What if God gave us instant judgement for our sins, how many of us will be alive today? Continue reading Who is Without Mistakes?→
One question for you, who is your source? The source of a stream or river determines whether it ever runs dry or it flows continuously all year long. In life we all need to have a source, and I have discovered that the only sure source you can rely on is God.
If God is the source of our joy, joy will never fail us. If He is the source of our love, love will never fail us. If He is the source of our strength, strength will never fail us. If He is the source of our mercies, mercy will never fail us. If He is the source of our success, success will never fail us. No challenges, adversity, trials, or sickness can knock out the person who has made God his/her source. http://www.facebook.com/vinegoro
“Never tear down anything unless you are prepared to build something better in its place.” I think of these wise words each time I read or hear people writing or saying negative things about others. Many of us have a habit of criticizing and condemning others – especially church leaders and their messages. I was on a social media platform recently and someone who has a significant following online was condemning a leading pastor as “Anti-Christ” and not a true believer.
If you find yourself always attacking, opposing and criticizing the actions of others, remember, it is easy to condemn, criticize and attack other people thoughtlessly for their failings and mistakes, and equally easy to find fault in their work or in situations that are not to your liking. It is far more difficult to empathize and help build people up. Until you work their paths you will never know what people go through to get where they are in life.
The bible says the thief comes to steal, kill and destroy others joy, happiness, laughter, progress, work, successes and lives. Don’t become the thief! Negative criticism and condemning others is cheap, so let’s stop doing easy and cheap things. One way to do this is to try and catch yourself being negative towards others, and remember the old saying, “If you can’t say something nice about someone, don’t say anything at all.” Continue reading Seek to Build and Not to Destroy!→
Back in the day one Nigerian musician sang, “when the going is smooth and good, many, many people will be your friends…they will call you many names, they will say they love you, they will say they need you, they will say you are great and so on and so forth.” Agreeing with the old saying that success has many friends.
I bet there are many of you who at some point or the other experienced having many friends when the going was good for you. People don’t often appreciate adversity, most people never believe that everything that happens to us no matter how bad it may appear has some good embedded in it. And one of the good things about adversity or setbacks is that it reveals to us who our true friends are.
Many of us will realize when we are hit by some sudden misfortune that those people we called friends when we were doing so good were actually acquaintances who our successes, jobs or businesses attracted to us as you will indeed be very lucky if you still have a handful of real friends during those periods. If you want to know who your true friends are during challenging periods, ask them for help. Continue reading You Don’t Have Any Friends Until You Are Faced With Difficulty Yet→
People help people succeed. You can’t succeed without the help and support of other people so if you live your life without cooperating or associating with other people you better have a rethink because your success in life depends on that.
One way to get people to help you is for you to first be the one helping others. Go out of your way to assist, encourage or inspire other people around you to succeed. When you make it a lifestyle to encourage others and to help them advance in their lives whenever possible, most will reciprocate when you need their help. Give generously, and you will benefit in kind.
Remember the golden rule, do unto others what you expect them to do to you. Live your greatest life!
One of the best things I learned as a Child of God is giving thanks to God for all things and in every situation whether it is positive or negative. But I have discovered that for most people thanking God for the good things is so easy. When good things happen to you, when good times come, you rejoice and celebrate, but that seldom is the case when you are hit by adversity or some misfortune.
A guy once said to me once, “why should I rejoice and be thankful when bad things happen to me? I ought to be sad, and complaining, so that maybe I can get help somehow.” Unfortunately he isn’t alone with that mindset, because that’s just what most people do; they cry, whine, talk or complain about their adversities and setbacks.
One of my favourite scriptures says, “all things work together for good to them that love God.” No matter how bad I am hit by difficulties and adversity, I believe that in the end something good will come out of the situation. Secondly, from experience I know that things don’t always end up as bad as they seem at first. Sometimes we react based on the information we receive, only to realize later that it wasn’t as terrible as it was reported. Continue reading There’s Always Something to Be Thankful For→