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Russell Conwell in his classic “Acres Of Diamonds” told a true story of an African farmer who heard of others who had become wealthy by discovering diamond mines. He sold his farm and other assets and travelled the continent for so many years in search of diamonds until at last old, sick, weary and frustrated, he threw himself into a river and drowned. Meanwhile back at the farm he sold, the new owner found a large brilliant rough diamond in the creek while washing. A friend told him he had found one of the largest diamonds ever. His creek was filled with such stones.
Now the farm the first farmer had sold that he might find a diamond mine turned out to be the most productive diamond mine in the entire African continent. The first farmer had owned free and clear acres of diamonds. He should have searched his own property thoroughly before moving on. He didn’t even look.
At this moment each of us is standing in the midst of his or her own acre of diamonds. Explore the field you are in, “if the grass is greener on the other side, it’s probably getting better care” don’t run from one place to another, one thing to another forever looking for a ‘pot of gold’ or ‘an oil well’. Stay where you are until you find what you seek. “Getting rich is not a matter of environment, for if it were, all the people in certain neighbourhoods would become wealthy; the people of one city would all be rich, while those of other towns would all be poor, or the inhabitants of one state would roll in wealth while those of other states would be in poverty.” Right where you are there are successful people, so let your mind thoroughly explore the possibilities around you.
There were very good reasons why you chose your present work in the beginning, if not then it may be time to move on to another field. Find acres of diamonds hiding in your work, relationships, city. The diamonds of opportunity are there, your duty is to find them. Think of better ways to serve, right where you are. Look at your work through the eyes of ‘intelligent objectivity’. Leave no stone unturned. There are better ways to do what you are doing presently, seek them and improve. Overcome! Prevail right where you are. Stay and get rid of your problems. “Success is a matter of sticking to a set of common sense principles anyone can master”.


What is so obvious about your life? Is it Poverty, Joblessness, Loneliness, Broken home or a broken relationship?… I do not know what the obvious is in your life, and maybe the society has attached a label on you. You may have been called a destitute, a failure, a single Mom, a never- do well, or whatever else. Trust me I know what it feels like to have such titles and labels, to have a horrible life, but come to think of it, it’s all perception, and it took me years to realize this.
In a moment of time someone can change your paradigm, change your perception, and if you choose to take on that perception, you will win or you will lose. Like you, I had accepted the labels and almost became a looser but thank God for the new perception now.
Everyone who has ever had to rise above their lowly situation in life, or financial status has had to look beyond the obvious. Even in the bible we see titles and labels placed on people. Christ also had labels; he had been labelled a Blasphemer, but he had to look beyond the opposition and negative titles. He saw the bigger picture, the glory ahead, and his position with God when His mission on earth would have been accomplished.
If you accept the negative titles that society associates you with, if you accept the negativity that people spill on you, then you give them victory and power over your life, and you invariably become a victim in life. Now that is a very negative thing to do. You should only accept the limits placed on you by God, and that limit is a LIFE OF ABUNDANCE. “You are the salt of the earth…You are the light of the world”. You are meant to do great things. Why try so hard to fit in when you are meant to stand out? Too many of us are trying so hard to “fit in”, to “belong”, to be counted among the group or the ‘tribe’. Stop trying to fit-in, figure out how to stand out. Always aim for the sky no matter where you are, because if you aim for the sky and you hit a sky scrapper, you’re doing OK.
Looking beyond the obvious requires a shift in mentality, and it doesn’t just happen. This, like all other things in life takes repetitive practice, just like a child learning to walk, learning to swim, or ride a bike or play a sport, we fail many times during the learning/practise of these activities, but we get up and try again till we perfect the art. We never give up.
Keep in mind that people who succeed in life do not have fewer problems than people who fail, because the only people without problems are those in the cemeteries. It is not what happens to us that separate failure from success, it is how we perceive it and what we do about what happens to us that makes the difference.
Anthony Robbins said “the difference between those who succeed and those who fail isn’t what they have; it is what they choose to see.” “As far as your eyes can see, I will give to you and your children as an inheritance”- The Bible.
Choose success over failure, choose to be happy, choose to live a beautiful and above all love yourself.


“In the beginning was the word, and the word was with God, and the word was God himself. He was present originally with God. All things were made and came into existence through Him; and without Him was not even one thing made that has come into being.” – John 1:1-3.

The word is one of the most powerful gift we have as humans. Through the word you express your creative power, and manifest everything, it doesn’t matter what language you speak, what you dream, or what you feel. What you are today is a manifestation of the word. The word is a magic tool, but like a two edged sword, you can create the most beautiful of existence with the word or you can destroy everything and everyone around you with the word. When you misuse the word it creates a living hell, on the other hand, if you use it well it creates love, beauty, and positivity on earth.
God created this world and everything in it with just words “Let there be…And there was” and we also have been given the powers and ability to create our existence, but the power of the word is often completely misused. We use the word to curse, to blame, to find guilt, to destroy. Author Paulo Coelho rightly captured it in his blog when he said “Of all the powerful weapons of destruction that man has invented, the most terrible-and the most cowardly-is the word. Knives and fire arms leave traces of blood; bombs shake whole buildings and streets; poisons can always be detected, but a destructive word can provoke Evil without leaving behind it a single clue.”
Take a look at our world today and you will find adults who as children were told by parents or older siblings or teachers in school that they weren’t good enough, weren’t smart, or that they were a mistake. These words formed beliefs in them. Now they go about behaving in those ways, having low self esteem, being shy and feeling so inferior among their peers, because of the spell unknowingly cast upon them as kids. We also find beautiful people who now feel ugly because the people they loved told them they weren’t pretty and they believed it. Of course we also use the word in the right way but not too often. Mostly we use the word to spread poison, to express anger, jealousy and hate. Hate between families, between religions and cultures, is perpetuated through the misuse of the word. We live in poverty, fear, and doubt, pull each other down because of the misuse of the word.
You can’t control your thoughts very easily, thoughts are like a runaway free train, but you have a hundred percent control of what you say. By consciously pausing and choosing what you say, by using words to diminish negative emotions and using words to increase positive emotions, you put yourself at an advantage in life. You must use powerful positive words to change your situation. Always reframe any and every situation and put it in the proper frame by your word. Your word will change your thinking, which will change your feelings, your feelings will change your actions and your actions will completely change your results.
The simplest thing you start with is the words you speak. How are you speaking about your current situations? What words do you use in telling the stories of your past situations? We have practiced telling stories wrongly. You tell stories the wrong way, and it energizes negativity in those events and it keeps you hung up. If you tell stories from your past, and describe your present situation completely differently, and using words that will diminish the negative and increase the positive, you will be amazed how your life will be transformed. The story of the creation in the bible shows how God was in a difficult situation, the earth was formless, darkness and water was everywhere, the whole world was without form, but God didn’t whine about it, he didn’t go about complaining, crying, telling everyone how the earth was messed up. Rather He spoke what he wanted to see happen. Where He wanted light He spoke light, He spoke land to appear …and for every other thing He wanted. God wants you to do the same with your life. The bible says “let the weak say I am strong…let the poor say I am rich.” What you say is what you get. Proverbs 18:21 says “death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it (for death or life).” Why don’t you begin to fill your mouth with life and not death? Begin to create the life of your dreams by speaking and confessing your desired life through your words rather than cursing and casting spells on yourself and those around you.


I strongly believe that nothing we give or do to those who are in need can go without some form of adequate reward. Usually you get more than the quantity you gave. According to the bible book of Luke chapter six verse eight; “give and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure- pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return.” This passage asserts to the principle that you get more benefits when you give. This means that you possibly get ten or a hundred times more value for every giving act rendered.
Too often this quoted scripture is used to imply the giving of money, but money isn’t the only object of giving. We can give in so any ways; we can give our time and attention, we give by saying kind words to people, by feeding the hungry, opening up ourselves and our doors to those who need us. When you throw loving, appreciative thoughts to people, every single time you get and feel happy for another person, you benefit the person, but you benefit yourself more. It’s like going to the gym to take an aerobic class, you do the exercise, and when you leave your muscles get stronger. With each exercise you improve your muscles, your vitality level, and your cardio vascular health. The bible is filled with stories of people who reaped the rewards of giving; below are some examples.
Rahab of Jericho gave by accommodating the Jewish spies, in return she and her household were spared from the destruction of the city.
Abraham entertained angels without knowing and he saved his nephew and his family from Sodom.
The widow at Zarephat gave her last meal in a terrible season to Elijah and she had her life transformed with more food that lasted throughout the famine years.
The fishermen who gave Jesus a ride on their boat to enable Him talk to the pressing crowd, despite a tired and a fruitless night at sea, got the reward of a “net breaking, boat sinking” catch of fish.
You see each act of giving done genuinely from the heart always yield so much more, though it may not always come back to you from the source to which you gave to, but God surely rewards us from other avenues.
Nothing goes unrewarded, even acts of unkindness, acts of wickedness, negative thoughts, envy, strife, jealousy, anger, all come back to us in torrents. So rather than increase your pains, sickness, sufferings, poverty why don’t you start giving out happiness, love, kindness, and laughter to somebody today so you can receive tons of it from God? Like the bible says; “Cast your bread upon the waters, for you will find it after many days. In the morning sow your seed, and in the evening withhold not your hand, for you do not know which will prosper, this or that, or whether both alike will be good.”


One snowy day around 1000 BC, in some small mountain area just outside Jerusalem came a man walking through the snow which was blowing through his face. The snow had accumulated to about six inches thick on the ground. The man was wearing a bear skin cloak that protected him from the bitter cold, his beard and eye brows had turned white from the frozen snow. Suddenly, out of the woods leaps a Lion. The Lion shakes off snow from its mane and stares coldly at the man. Lions weigh up to 56 kilograms, they can reach speeds of up to 56 kilometres per hour, and can jump 5 meters in a single leap. Now man and beast look eye to eye, their frozen breathe rises as steam. The natural progression of things would be that the man turns and runs and the Lion chases after him, but this time nothing like that happens. Something literally mind-blowing, something never witnessed before in history happens. The man begins full sprint at the Lion. He began the chase and the Lion turns and run from the man, both run breaking limbs and small trees standing in their way. Suddenly the snow gave way under the very powerful paws of the Lion, and the Lion crashes into a snowy pit. Our man stops at the edge of the pit, peers down at the trapped Lion, and then leaps to the depth of the pit.
Come to think of it!!! Who does that? Who is insane enough to do that? Although the bible did not give a blow by blow description, I believe it was the scariest moment of the man’s life. He stood inches away from thirty deadly teeth; he could smell the Lion’s breathe, then the pit grew silent, a silence that seemed like eternity, and suddenly out of the pit comes our man. The Lion is dead! The man’s name is BENAIAH. He is the Lion chaser. The man who killed a Lion without a weapon as stated in the bible.
Friends “Benaiah” could have run away and no one would blame him, no one would have thought any less of him if he turned and ran from the Lion. He could have played it safe and no one would have referred to him as a coward. The most logical decision would have been to turn and run for his dear life, but if “Benaiah” had done any of these, if he had not gone after the Lion, no one would have ever known his name. He would have been buried in the annals of history.
Do you want to be a Lion chaser? Lion chasers are a rare breed of people. You have to develop a winning attitude; the choice to chase the Lion comes from the heart not the head. Lion chasers think outside the box. Our society wants us to be normal. All of our lives we have been programmed for normality and conformity, but this is not the intent of God in creating us, the bible says we are gods, sons of the most high God. We are created for the extraordinary, we are made to chase Lions and not live mediocre lives. Learn to see outside the box, see beyond where you are in life. Where you start does not matter, but where and how you end up does.
In life we all have Lions we face, these Lions maybe in the form of your relationship:…..You don’t see how it will work out, Lions in the form of your career or in your finances, it does not seem like you will ever find a job or get out of debt, “you don’t know how you will fulfil your dreams”. Lions in your health, doctors have said you are not going to get well. A lot of times we pray about our Lions, God please help me, God help my partner change, God give me a better job or do this and that.
Oh yes it is good to pray, to ask for help, but when you face a Lion, it is not enough to pray. It is not enough to believe it will turn and go and not attack you. Here is what you do: you have to attack your Lion. You have to chase the Lion. If you don’t attack life, life will attack you. What is that fear holding you back? You don’t pray about it, you face your fears. 2 Timothy 1 tells us “God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and love and of a sound mind.”
As we go through life daily, we are going to have Lions that would try to keep us from God’s best. Yes it’s good to pray, it’s good to believe, it’s good to quote scriptures and speak in tongues, but remember you don’t ask Lions to leave your life. You CHASE them.