Who are your friends and how do they affect you? The relationships you have can either enhance your life or they can drain you. There are talented people who have lots of potentials in them, but because they didn’t surround themselves with other people that will inspire them to transcend themselves, they will never realize their greatness and might end up going to their graves with all their gifts still in them.
Folks you have to be selective about the people you have around as friends, because the law of average states that the result of any given situation will be the average of all the outcomes. Famous motivational speaker and Author Jim Rohn further explain this law by saying that “we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with”.
We are greatly influenced whether we like it or not by those closest to us. They affect our ways of thinking, our self esteem, and the decisions we make in life. So who are the five people in your life that you spend the most time with – your buddies? Get serious write their names down and begin to ask these critical questions about your friends, lovers, partners; who are they? What do they do with their lives? How ambitious and successful have they been? How enthusiastic are they? How happy are they?
Really take a look at your relationships, the people you are involved with, the people you communicate with most of the time and ask yourself, what am I becoming because of this relationship? Does it inspire me? Am I motivated? Am I encouraged and driven to develop myself? Am I seeking my own greatness? What kind of person am I becoming because of these relationships? Am I becoming more cynical and negative about life? If you want to become the person God created you to be, if you want to achieve the life of your dreams, you must stay away from toxic people because as Dr. Wayne Dyer says; “when you allow toxic people into your immediate energy field, you will find that your feelings of well-being diminish. Just as if you allow someone with a cold to sneeze in your face, you increase your chances of getting sick, you must be careful about whom you elect to associate with to avoid contaminating your life energy.”
Make the choice today about who you want to continue spending your time with. Even if no one among your present set of friends meet the standards and goals you set for yourself, let them GO! Don’t let a few folks keep you down. “Don’t become the average of some average people.” “You need to say goodbye albeit with unconditional love, to anyone who pollutes your life space with slowed down energy”.
“Success is easier than failure.” “Winning is better than losing”.But everyone has the option to live on whatever layer of life’s pyramid they choose. You have to choose to stay down or climb to the top. At the top the view is better, and the crowd is smaller. But it’s easier to settle for the lower levels, because to some people they just want to get in step with their peers, some just don’t know how to succeed, they want to be accepted. They choose to follow the follower, conforming to one another. Belonging is all that is important to these people.
But this is the trap that gets practically everybody, and most people end their lives in it. They live their lives playing to the crowd, especially the wrong one, trying to be one of the boys. The most important thing to them is to be liked they have no identity of their own. But successful people, true winners they don’t conform, they follow independent paths, they know that paths are made by people walking on them, so they create their own paths. They break away from the crowd, and rather join a smaller crowd. They don’t watch the television all day long, they use their time constructively.
You see It’s easier to win, and it’s never too late for you. If you want to be a winner, all you need is a dream, a worthy goal and a motivation to reach the upper layers of life’s pyramid. Your dream doesn’t have to be glamorous to start, it just has to be a dream because whatever gets into your mind stays there and will always show up in your life, but when you see nothing, dream nothing, you will expect and get nothing. “Surround yourself with what could be and not what is.” Continue reading YOU CAN WIN!
Is this the case with you? You are doing what you think you want with your life, your life seem to be everything you’ve always wanted it to be – you have a job, wonderful family, great relationship with friends, involved in your faith, but still something is lacking in your life. Somehow you’re still restless, uneasy and incomplete.
In the gospel of Mark we find a story about a rich man, who obviously has got everything in life and yet he was searching for something. Something wasn’t right with his heart, in his soul. He came to Jesus with a question about eternal life and happiness. Then Jesus directs him to the commandments, He said obey them. The rich man answered; I have done all those things according to the scriptures…I have lived an obedient life, I have done all things right but still I feel emptiness inside why?
Do you feel the same way? You have worked pretty hard, you have been a good person, you do your best to do the right things, you try to live a faithful life…”why am I not happy?” how come I always feel like there’s something missing in my life? You ask.
Jesus told him to sell his things, give the money to the poor and follow Him. Jesus told him the solution lies in his relinquishment, in the man’s willingness to let go and detach himself from all his stuff, all his possessions, and that seemed so unrealistic and improbable to him.
If our lives are hinged on maintaining all our possessions, becoming rich, then we have to ask ourselves: To what extent are our lives being controlled by our attachment to our things? To what extent does our need for houses, cars, beautiful women, rich men, the need to maintain our status, to keep up with the” Jones’”, dominate our lives to the point that we have no time, and energy. All the time, it seems we are weary, worn-out, restless, and empty.
We often buy into the illusion that “If I just had this…If I just had that…If this would happen…Or that”, then my life would be great, everything would be fine. We think like that most of the time or don’t you? We are convinced that if “I just got married…or if just had a baby boy, if I had a boy friend or girl friend, then I’d be happy and my life would be content.” We have to be careful so as not to convince ourselves that the real meaning of our lives, our happiness and contentment come from the external and not the internal. We shouldn’t think that things that happen to us, those circumstances, that they will change the inside.
Let’s change our value system.The value system that is characterized by our attachment to things. The rich man was saddened because he was too attached to his possessions and couldn’t accept Jesus’ invitation to relinquishment. It is true that we are supposed to have nice things in life, but they shouldn’t keep us from a life of loving and giving, and strengthening our connection to people and God.
“Happiness is as elusive as a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it flies away. But if we stop chasing it, put away our nets and busy ourselves with other things….the butterfly will come to us.” Connect more to people, lend a compassionate ear, and before you know it, happiness will sneak up on us and overflow our lives.
Marcus Aurelius Antonius, Roman emperor and philosopher said “ The world in which we live is determined by our thoughts”. Ralph Waldo Emerson also said “A man is what he thinks about all day long”.
Often we imagine our circumstances as being separate from ourselves, but they are in fact intimately related to our thoughts. Nothing appears without an adequate cause, nothing is fated, everything is formed. Happiness in life depends upon the kind of thoughts we think. It is impossible to be happy when we think unhappy thoughts. Our mind is like a fertile soil that will grow what ever thought- seeds planted in them. If you plant into your mind thoughts of fear, you will get out fear as rewards, if you plant into your mind thoughts of failure you will get circumstances that lead to failure.
Every great life is a result of great thoughts, and the most positive of thoughts are those stated in the Bible. Condition your mind for greatness by reading and meditating these powerful positive Bible verses adapted from Dr. Norman Vincent Peale’s “Thought Conditioners”. Memorize each verse and the message given with each and let them add happiness and greatness into your life.
The things, which are impossible with men are possible with God. —Luke 18:27
This text shows how to do an “impossible” thing. Size up your problem, pray about it, do all you can about it. If it seems impossible, don’t give up, but affirm, “The things which are impossible with men are possible with God.” Keep relaxed. Don’t worry. Avoid getting panicky. Never think, “This can’t be done.” Declare, “It can be done, it is being done because God is doing it through me.” Affirm that the process is in operation. The final outcome may not be entirely what you now desire. But, handled in this manner, the solution will be what God wants it to be.
Come unto Me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. —Matthew 11:28
Perhaps the strain and burden of life have made you tired. If so, maybe you are carrying life too heavily. Primarily, we do not get tired in our muscles but in our minds. We develop that “I’m swamped” feeling. Allow this text to dissolve in your thoughts as a kind of spiritual lozenge. As you turn to Jesus in your thoughts, He will give you rest. And how does He do that? One way is by showing you how to work. “Learn of Me,” He says. In other words, work by My method. “My yoke is easy, and My burden is light” (Matthew 11:30). That is to say, easy does it. Don’t strain, don’t tug, relax. Do one job at a time using the light touch, the easy stroke.
What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them. —Mark 11:24
To pray successfully, you must employ affirmation and visualization. Form a picture in your mind, not of lack or denial or frustration or illness, but of prosperity, abundance, attainment, health. Always remember you will receive as a result of prayer exactly what you think, not what you say. If you pray for achievement but think defeat, your words are idle because your heart has already accepted defeat. Therefore, practice believing that even as you pray you are receiving God’s boundless blessings, and they will come to you.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. —Proverbs 3:5
This text will help you avoid a nervous breakdown. It will stimulate your recovery if you have had one. A famous neurologist, a specialist in nervous breakdowns often “prescribes” this text for his patients. He writes the words on a card and instructs his patient to commit them to memory and repeat them until they are indelibly printed on the subconscious mind. The cause of much nervous trouble is frustration. And the antidote to frustration is a calm faith, not in your own cleverness, or in hard toil, but in God’s guidance. The cure of frustration is the belief that God will help you obtain your heart’s desire. Trust in God with all your heart, and you will be able to keep on working in health and happiness for long years to come.
I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. —John 10:10
Many people are lacking in energy. Their vitality is low. They are filled with inner conflicts, which dissipate energy. They are dull and apathetic. What is the secret of energized life? Christ is the answer. It is said of Him, “In Him was life” (John 1:4). Fill your mind with Christ, fill your heart with Him, and inevitably energy, vitality, exuberance, delight, and eagerness will well up within you. Every day as you repeat this text make it read, “Christ has come that I (fill in your own name) might have life and might have it more abundantly.”
If God be for us, who can be against us? —Romans 8:31
Imagine yourself as actually looking at all your diffi- culties like an army lined up against you. Then realize you have a backing that can overcome them all. As you face these enemies of yours— discouragement, frustration, disappointment, hostility, weakness—ask yourself, “What shall I say to these things?” And the answer is, “If God be for us, who can be against us?” Now, spend a minute realizing that God is for you and say this affirmation: “God is with me. God is for me. God is greater than all these things.” Then visualize these enemies of your peace and happiness as retreating, giving way before God’s power. Personalize the text by saying: “If God be for me, who can be against me?” The repetitive use of this text will give you an enormous sense of God’s presence and a powerful feeling of victory.
The kingdom of God is within you. —Luke 17:21
When you are filled with self-doubt, and in the grip of your inferiority complex, don’t give up saying, “I can’t do it, I haven’t it in me.” You do have a very big “it” within you. You have the Kingdom of God within you. God has placed in your personality all the ability you need. You have only to believe in yourself, and strength within you will be released. In saying the text, try it this way, “God’s abundance, peace, and power are within me. I lack for nothing.”
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. —II Timothy 1: 7
Your fears can be healed by this text. It tells us, first, that fear is overcome by power. What power? There is only one force more powerful than fear, and that is faith. When fear comes to your mind, counter it with an affirmation of faith Second, love overcomes fear. By love is meant trust,confidence, complete dependence upon God. Practice this attitude and fear will diminish. The third element is to attain a sound mind in which there are no complexes, quirks, and obsessions. Live with the thought of God, and you will develop a sound mind where no shadowy fear can lurk. Whenever you are afraid, verbalize against the thing that you fear, using the words of this text.
Thou shalt guide me with Thy counsel, and afterward receive me to glory. —Psalm 73:24
Perhaps, today, you have a problem, which has baf- fled you. Try allowing this text to penetrate your mind un- til it becomes a dominating conception, and it will do some important things for you. It will make you understand that there is an answer to every problem, and that God is thinking along with you. It will bring to bear upon your problem that keen and sharp perception of wisdom called insight. If you put every problem in God’s hands, ask Him to give you the right answer, believe that He is doing just that, and will take the guidance that comes, your decisions will turn out right.
Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us. —Ephesians 3:20
Today, remind yourself that nothing is too good to be true. Your great hopes can be realized. Your most wonderful dreams can come true. All that you really need, you can have. An incredible goodness is operating in your behalf. If you are living a paltry life, resolve to stop it today. Expect great things to happen. Confidently receive God’s abundant blessings. Do not think lack. Instead think prosperity, abundance, the best of everything. God wants to give to you, His child, every good thing. Don’t hinder His generosity.
Russell Conwell in his classic “Acres Of Diamonds” told a true story of an African farmer who heard of others who had become wealthy by discovering diamond mines. He sold his farm and other assets and travelled the continent for so many years in search of diamonds until at last old, sick, weary and frustrated, he threw himself into a river and drowned. Meanwhile back at the farm he sold, the new owner found a large brilliant rough diamond in the creek while washing. A friend told him he had found one of the largest diamonds ever. His creek was filled with such stones.
Now the farm the first farmer had sold that he might find a diamond mine turned out to be the most productive diamond mine in the entire African continent. The first farmer had owned free and clear acres of diamonds. He should have searched his own property thoroughly before moving on. He didn’t even look.
At this moment each of us is standing in the midst of his or her own acre of diamonds. Explore the field you are in, “if the grass is greener on the other side, it’s probably getting better care” don’t run from one place to another, one thing to another forever looking for a ‘pot of gold’ or ‘an oil well’. Stay where you are until you find what you seek. “Getting rich is not a matter of environment, for if it were, all the people in certain neighbourhoods would become wealthy; the people of one city would all be rich, while those of other towns would all be poor, or the inhabitants of one state would roll in wealth while those of other states would be in poverty.” Right where you are there are successful people, so let your mind thoroughly explore the possibilities around you.
There were very good reasons why you chose your present work in the beginning, if not then it may be time to move on to another field. Find acres of diamonds hiding in your work, relationships, city. The diamonds of opportunity are there, your duty is to find them. Think of better ways to serve, right where you are. Look at your work through the eyes of ‘intelligent objectivity’. Leave no stone unturned. There are better ways to do what you are doing presently, seek them and improve. Overcome! Prevail right where you are. Stay and get rid of your problems. “Success is a matter of sticking to a set of common sense principles anyone can master”.
What is so obvious about your life? Is it Poverty, Joblessness, Loneliness, Broken home or a broken relationship?… I do not know what the obvious is in your life, and maybe the society has attached a label on you. You may have been called a destitute, a failure, a single Mom, a never- do well, or whatever else. Trust me I know what it feels like to have such titles and labels, to have a horrible life, but come to think of it, it’s all perception, and it took me years to realize this.
In a moment of time someone can change your paradigm, change your perception, and if you choose to take on that perception, you will win or you will lose. Like you, I had accepted the labels and almost became a looser but thank God for the new perception now.
Everyone who has ever had to rise above their lowly situation in life, or financial status has had to look beyond the obvious. Even in the bible we see titles and labels placed on people. Christ also had labels; he had been labelled a Blasphemer, but he had to look beyond the opposition and negative titles. He saw the bigger picture, the glory ahead, and his position with God when His mission on earth would have been accomplished.
If you accept the negative titles that society associates you with, if you accept the negativity that people spill on you, then you give them victory and power over your life, and you invariably become a victim in life. Now that is a very negative thing to do. You should only accept the limits placed on you by God, and that limit is a LIFE OF ABUNDANCE. “You are the salt of the earth…You are the light of the world”. You are meant to do great things. Why try so hard to fit in when you are meant to stand out? Too many of us are trying so hard to “fit in”, to “belong”, to be counted among the group or the ‘tribe’. Stop trying to fit-in, figure out how to stand out. Always aim for the sky no matter where you are, because if you aim for the sky and you hit a sky scrapper, you’re doing OK.
Looking beyond the obvious requires a shift in mentality, and it doesn’t just happen. This, like all other things in life takes repetitive practice, just like a child learning to walk, learning to swim, or ride a bike or play a sport, we fail many times during the learning/practise of these activities, but we get up and try again till we perfect the art. We never give up.
Keep in mind that people who succeed in life do not have fewer problems than people who fail, because the only people without problems are those in the cemeteries. It is not what happens to us that separate failure from success, it is how we perceive it and what we do about what happens to us that makes the difference.
Anthony Robbins said “the difference between those who succeed and those who fail isn’t what they have; it is what they choose to see.” “As far as your eyes can see, I will give to you and your children as an inheritance”- The Bible.
Choose success over failure, choose to be happy, choose to live a beautiful and above all love yourself.
“In the beginning was the word, and the word was with God, and the word was God himself. He was present originally with God. All things were made and came into existence through Him; and without Him was not even one thing made that has come into being.” – John 1:1-3.
The word is one of the most powerful gift we have as humans. Through the word you express your creative power, and manifest everything, it doesn’t matter what language you speak, what you dream, or what you feel. What you are today is a manifestation of the word. The word is a magic tool, but like a two edged sword, you can create the most beautiful of existence with the word or you can destroy everything and everyone around you with the word. When you misuse the word it creates a living hell, on the other hand, if you use it well it creates love, beauty, and positivity on earth.
God created this world and everything in it with just words “Let there be…And there was” and we also have been given the powers and ability to create our existence, but the power of the word is often completely misused. We use the word to curse, to blame, to find guilt, to destroy. Author Paulo Coelho rightly captured it in his blog when he said “Of all the powerful weapons of destruction that man has invented, the most terrible-and the most cowardly-is the word. Knives and fire arms leave traces of blood; bombs shake whole buildings and streets; poisons can always be detected, but a destructive word can provoke Evil without leaving behind it a single clue.”
Take a look at our world today and you will find adults who as children were told by parents or older siblings or teachers in school that they weren’t good enough, weren’t smart, or that they were a mistake. These words formed beliefs in them. Now they go about behaving in those ways, having low self esteem, being shy and feeling so inferior among their peers, because of the spell unknowingly cast upon them as kids. We also find beautiful people who now feel ugly because the people they loved told them they weren’t pretty and they believed it. Of course we also use the word in the right way but not too often. Mostly we use the word to spread poison, to express anger, jealousy and hate. Hate between families, between religions and cultures, is perpetuated through the misuse of the word. We live in poverty, fear, and doubt, pull each other down because of the misuse of the word.
You can’t control your thoughts very easily, thoughts are like a runaway free train, but you have a hundred percent control of what you say. By consciously pausing and choosing what you say, by using words to diminish negative emotions and using words to increase positive emotions, you put yourself at an advantage in life. You must use powerful positive words to change your situation. Always reframe any and every situation and put it in the proper frame by your word. Your word will change your thinking, which will change your feelings, your feelings will change your actions and your actions will completely change your results.
The simplest thing you start with is the words you speak. How are you speaking about your current situations? What words do you use in telling the stories of your past situations? We have practiced telling stories wrongly. You tell stories the wrong way, and it energizes negativity in those events and it keeps you hung up. If you tell stories from your past, and describe your present situation completely differently, and using words that will diminish the negative and increase the positive, you will be amazed how your life will be transformed. The story of the creation in the bible shows how God was in a difficult situation, the earth was formless, darkness and water was everywhere, the whole world was without form, but God didn’t whine about it, he didn’t go about complaining, crying, telling everyone how the earth was messed up. Rather He spoke what he wanted to see happen. Where He wanted light He spoke light, He spoke land to appear …and for every other thing He wanted. God wants you to do the same with your life. The bible says “let the weak say I am strong…let the poor say I am rich.” What you say is what you get. Proverbs 18:21 says “death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it (for death or life).” Why don’t you begin to fill your mouth with life and not death? Begin to create the life of your dreams by speaking and confessing your desired life through your words rather than cursing and casting spells on yourself and those around you.