Many of us talk about the kind of life we want to live, the things we want to achieve, the places we want to be, the kind of relationships we want to have. For example, you may be reading this and you have been talking about being a successful entrepreneur, a bestselling author, a thought leader, a coach etc. while it is good to dream and talk about your dreams, here is a question for you, “What are you willing to give up, in order to have the life you keep saying you want?”
Two years ago I was asked that question, when I was struggling to become a speaker. I knew my higher purpose was to inspire others to live their best lives, but I was letting too many stuff get in the way. Then I met a mentor who asked me, Vincent what are you willing to give up, so that you can have the life you keep talking and dreaming about? In responding, I thought I had to only give up the bad habits, the things I didn’t love doing but he said, hey, that’s easy, you must also give up the things you love that are getting in the way of you following your dreams.
Folks your dreams require focused attention. So the reason why most of us haven’t reached that height we talk about is because we let too many stuff get in the way. Maybe like me you may have to really take a look at your lives and do some purging. What are you saying YES to that is making you say NO to your dream? Continue reading WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO GIVE UP TO LIVE YOUR DREAMS?→
Stop crying and complaining that you haven’t been able to have a perfect life. Some people blame and hate themselves for failing, falling or not meeting their goals or some set standards even when God who created you knows and doesn’t expect you to be perfect in this world. God created us as human beings in His image, with a combination of faith and frailty, sometimes we aim high and sometimes fall short; sometimes we get some things wonderfully right and other times terribly wrong.
If you have failed today or experiencing some challenge or the other, do not despair or hate yourself for it, never consider yourself a failure because tomorrow is another day and you will have fresh opportunities to make up for your missed chances.
No life is sweet all the time. No one experiences successes and victories all the time, the same way the day gives way for the night that’s the same with our lives, we win some and lose some; we laugh sometimes and cry other times. Such is life. Let’s learn to accept it and live it!
“To have failed is to have striven, and to have striven is to have grown.” – Maltbie D. Babcock
Oh how true these words are. It takes a lot of courage for you try out something and fail in it. Though the world may laugh and mock you for attempting something and failing, no one who has tried and failed had been without benefit because through failure we learn; we grow; we gain the experience to become better than those we sit and laugh and never attempt anything grand.
Do you want to try something but you are scared of failing? My advice is, put yourself out there and fail in it. You see all the world’s greatest individuals from sports, business, politics, or whatever field you can think of have been the most failures. You don’t know because you just see their successes and celebrate them. But if you get to ask them what between the success and failure they treasure most? 99% of them will tell you it was that opportunity they had to fail.
Your failures are pointers towards the kinds of successes you will record in the future. Never be afraid to fail. The people we should be afraid of in life are those who haven’t tried anything; those whose dreams only remain in their heads; whose light have been hidden in their houses, and they remain afraid to shine outside because of what others may say about them. Continue reading Strive to Fail!→
William Shakespeare, once said “Some men are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.” But I do believe we all were born great. One of the greatest lies of the world is the belief that greatness, wealth, prosperity, success, is the exclusive reserve of a few individuals, while the rest of the world would just struggle along living mediocre lives with the aim of just trying to make a living.
There are some people who strongly believe that most humans must remain poor, that we are made to be poor. But there was neither poverty nor lack in the plans of God for man when He created us. Continue reading You Are Made For Greatness!→
The reason why many of us are stuck in slow growth is we don’t have the courage to follow our dreams. A lot of folks, even though they claim to be independent and think their thoughts are actually walking robots. You are waiting for your Dad, or mum, or Uncle to decide what you should become in life.
I meet people who tell me they don’t want to offend their folks by going after their dreams. Some think they don’t know what’s good for them, so they live their lives; take up careers; enter relationships based on the recommendations and validation of other people.
Unfortunately I haven’t read, seen, or heard about anyone who made an impact, lived happily and at peace with himself by doing and being the person designed by others. Even Christ Himself proved this to others when He told His Mother (Mary) who was looking for Him, “I must go about the business of my Heavenly Father.”
Greatness is knowing your purpose, pursuing it stubbornly and aggressively. Some of you follow the trends of circumstances in the society instead of trending yourself. Folks, “He who relies on circumstances to bring him what he desires, will only receive from circumstances the things he doesn’t desire.”
Stopping living your life waiting for some sudden wind of good luck to blow good opportunities for you…you will wait all your life and nothing tangible may show up. To get anything worthwhile from life, you must go after, keep chasing until you hunt them down. Remember the people who eat real food are those who sit on the table. If you hide under the table you will be getting the crumbs if any fall of from the plate of the eaters. Continue reading Stand Up and Live→
There is only one person whose respect and credit is indispensable to your success and that person is yourself. What any other man may think of you or do for you will never make or break you. That job is highly personal. Doubters are always in the majority and he along the race course of life to whet the ambitions of the stout hearted.
If you are a Christian, you’ve probably read or heard about the story of the man by the pool of Bethesda whom cried healed after being paralysed for over 38 years. Now before Christ got to heal him, He asked the man if he wanted to be made whole.
This man in answering started out talking about his condition, blaming it on his parents, Siblings, Uncles, Aunties, Friends and other associates, who have abandoned him, who will not help him get into the pool. The point I want us to see is, for 38 years that man remained where he was, not because there wasn’t any solution, but because he felt he needed someone to get him into the pool. He sat there whining and complaining to anyone who cared to listen about how terrible his family is, how they haven’t been supportive of him and all.
Now unfortunately many of you are acting like that man. You think your family hate you; you think your dad or uncle has to do something for you. You are where you are because you are waiting for daddy, mummy, uncle or that brother to assist you. The truth is brother/sister you will continue to be a failure if you don’t change your thinking. Continue reading It is Really Up To You!→
From boardrooms to bedrooms, from faculty halls to athletic fields, in medical schools or music schools, and in every age group and every human activity, and across every racial ethnic group you find one thing in common; people who are achieving less than they possibly could; people who abandon their dreams, and settle in mediocrity.
All over the world you find self-defeating habits and mediocre expectations and efforts towards goals. Millions of us are living below our God given potentials. You see gifted people who shine briefly, and for one reason or the other they disappear into obscurity.
Mediocrity is so common place today in our society that it has been accepted to be normal. That’s why many underachievers today don’t even realize they are one – because they look around and think “At least the other guy isn’t doing better than me.”
If you find yourself going back and forth, up and down, you know within your heart that you can do better, yet you are not doing it. I am sorry you may be an underachiever. Here are five characteristics of underachievers you may access yourself with: Continue reading 5 Reasons Why You Are Underachieving!→