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Allowing God Isn’t Weakness

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It is always natural for us to hold on to our grieves, our troubles, our convictions and so on, wanting to deal with them ourselves, instead of giving them up to God and allowing him stir our lives in the direction he deems right and perfect for us.

The fact is, when we are willing to give up our frightened and uncertain sense of things and let the God govern and direct us, then we discover that “all things work together for the good of them that love God.”

When we are willing to relinquish our present views, even though we may believe we are right and others are wrong, we will find that God is ready and active to adjust everything in our favour.

It may sometimes seem hard when we feel that we are oppressed or imposed upon, to stop resisting, but if we have strong faith in the ability of God to adjust all things to our good, we should be glad of the opportunity to relinquish our claims and place our trust in the power of God to adjust all things to our good according to His word.

Perhaps you may have been wrongfully treated and you think it is right for you react and not let go and let God, yet after reading this, you are thinking; what then are we to do when we find ourselves involved in a controversy, in a dispute, or in an unpleasant situation of any kind? What are we to do when we have been attacked and maligned, misrepresented or abused? Should we not return in kind what has been done to us?

It is my belief that it will not avail us any good if we fight back when we are being mistreated. We simply show our human weakness when we take the matter into our own hands and attempt either to punish our enemies or to extricate ourselves through any virtue of our own.

In the Sermon on the Mount, that wonderful message which he left for the guidance of all humanity, Jesus said, “But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.”  In other words, is it not better to be smitten twice than to fight back? He further adds, “If any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.” Even if we are unjustly deprived of what rightfully belongs to us, is it not better to suffer a second invasion than to fight back?

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Choose Your Friends

The most important thing in life is a friend, yet most of us do not take the time to choose our friends. It has been said that how far we go in life would be determined by the books we read and the friends we keep. So if you want to reach great heights in life you need to have friends who believe in you and inspire you to get there.

Who are your friends? A man is judged by the quality of his friends. If you hang around and become friends with negative, pessimistic folks, you will become negative and pessimistic, there by living a life below your potentials because we are the average of the people we spend our time with.

Some of us go about trying to be friends with everybody. Folks you can’t live your life that way, it’s not in the hoard of friends you have, but the quality of friends you keep. Friends ought to be carefully chosen and kept. Some of the people we call friends today are not suppose to be around us, we ought to keep them far from us, some may be good for correspondence, some should be mere acquaintances. The path to success requires that you take total control of your thoughts, words and actions. You don’t need to be around toxic people, who are always casting doubts and bursting your dreams. The bible says; “Do not be deceived; evil company corrupts good manners”. You have worked and given so much to get to this point, don’t let negative and toxic people pull you backwards.

As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. Proverbs 27: 17(NKJV) “The insight of a true friend is more useful than the goodwill of others” Gain your friends by choice, not by chance, or circumstances. “A wise friend wards off worries, a foolish one brings them about.” Good friends are few, if you have them, keep them, as to keep is more important than to make new ones.

Expect The Best

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So many times we get from life and from others, exactly what we expect. You see, the way we see people, objects or situations affects the way we treat them, and the way we treat them affects the way they behave. So our spouses, partners, children, relatives, co-workers, employees, bosses, classmates etc treat us the way they do because we expect them to be so. – the “Pygmalion effect.”

According to Greek mythology; Pygmalion was a Cypriot sculptor who carved a woman out of ivory, and fell in love with his creation because it was fair and beautiful. One day after repeated sacrifices, prayers, and wishes that his creation could become a living being, the god Aphrodite gave life to the stature, granting his wish…This brought about the origin of Pygmalion effect. The Pygmalion effect rests on the concept that “what we see reflected on many objects, situations, or persons, is what we put there with our own expectation. We create images of how things should be, and if these images are believed, they become self fulfilling prophecies.”

Often, I hear people say “I plan for the best and prepare for the worst.” Folks, when you prepare for the worst, it means you actually expect the worst to come. The Bible says, “….and thine expectation shall not be cut off.” So we always get what we expect. You always find what you look for in life. If you go about looking for the negatives instead of the positives in your marriage, relationship, work, health, school etc, you will find loads of things to complain about.

If you expect every man or woman wanting to be in a relationship with you to be a cheat, or become abusive, you won’t be disappointed at all.
“You can take the most outstanding man or woman, husband or wife, boy or girl imaginable, criticize them to death, and manage to find some fault in them or you can take the average man or woman and start looking for the good qualities, and you will find them in abundance.” Life gives you what you look for.
You can take your marriage and relationships and find many good things you like and and you are grateful for, or a number of things you don’t like. “Seek and you shall find”. Also, you can take your job or your company and find many good things you like, or a number of things you hate. Life gives you what you look for.

Folks, “the more good or bad you find in yourself, your mate, your job, your kids, your country, your church or your future, the more good or bad there will be to find.

Always look for the gold in everything. Expect the best from yourself and others!