Fate, circumstances, or other people may help you discover love, and from there a love affair starts that may end up in marriage, but fate, circumstances, or people cannot guarantee how happy that relationship or marriage turns out to be. Just like a wise man once put it; “No man ever gained a happy life by chance, or yawned it into being with a wish.”
Yet there are many of us who falsely believe that dating or marrying the person you love is an automatic ticket to a life of happiness, only to discover later on that that happiness in relationships and marriages, must be worked for; must be earned by patient endurance, self-restraint, and an accommodation for the likes and dislikes of your partner.
The reason why there seem to be many tales of unhappiness in relationships and marriages is because many of us expect to find happiness without taking any trouble to make it, or we become so selfishly preoccupied that we cannot enjoy our relationships.
Happiness in love relationships can only be achieved through continuous sacrifice. We fall in love, and get married to end our misery, yet we become more miserable in our relationships, because many of us ignore the law of “self-sacrifice” which operates in all things God created. The law, that states that; it is more blessed to give than to receive. Continue reading How to Be Happy in Your Relationship or Marriage→
I read somewhere about the gift of good-bye. Yes, when good-bye is actually a gift to us. We usually experience this gift when people who hurt us, or pull us down choose to leave our lives. But most times a lot of us don’t realize this gift, we do not realize that a failed relationship is actually a gift, that the people leaving our lives are doing us great favours. So instead of looking forward, moving on and getting ready for what God has in store for us we just struggle, fight, and cry over the relationship that isn’t working.
Its true most of the people leaving us may not be bad people after all, they were good to us at some point or throughout the relationship, but folks the season for that relationship is over. We may not know it but God does. The bible says God sees the end of our lives from the beginning. So maybe the reason is God has seen that this person(s), he/she is holding you back. Maybe he/she is keeping you from advancing. Maybe he/she is a bad influence.
When people leave our lives; whether they are our spouses, lovers, partners, colleagues – lets not get too angry and try to make them stay by all means. Just believe and know that God has a better plan for your future, and that the people who leave us are not tied to our future. Folks “When God is finished with something, there’s no amount of glue that can hold it together.” Let it go and expect God to do something new for you.