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8 Things Every Woman Needs From Her Man By Mary J Blige

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When it come to love and loving a lady, there isn’t a one rule fit everyone out there. But while there are many books and articles written over about this topic, there is still a surge in the craving to be loved. In my opinion guys, if you want to learn how to love a woman better, and if your spouse or partner isn’t willing to share with you how she wants you to treat her more lovingly, ask another lady what works.

Here are 8 ways to better love a lady shared by Mary J. Blige multiple award winning American singer, songwriter, model, record producer, and actress. and most importantly, a lady…it may solve that love puzzle of yours and bring back the love you thought you had lost in your relationship:

1. Women need more than material things: Guys this doesn’t mean, you should stop buy them, and spoiling them with the material things that you can afford. It means you shouldn’t think those things can take your place and the time you should spend with her.

2. Women need so much than what a man can say: Most of us guys are cool talkers and charmers with our words. We blow off our ladies with our words only to do the opposite of what we say. Mary J says, don’t talk about it, be about it, let your actions speak more.

3. A woman needs you to make love to her, she needs more than sex.

4. A woman likes to talk and work things out: You will be surprised how much you will accomplish by just spending time and listening to your spouse, laughing at jokes (even though they are terrible). I don’t mean being around her but being absent in your mind and eyes. Women like to talk, and love guys that listen. Continue reading 8 Things Every Woman Needs From Her Man By Mary J Blige

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23 Biblical Qualities of a Good Husband

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1. He loves his wife sacrificially. (John 12:24)
2. He diligently seeks to understand his wife. (1 Peter 3:7)
3. He lovingly teaches her the truth of God’s word, both overtly and through his conduct. (Ephesians 5:25‐27)
4. He is concerned about the spiritual well being of his wife and prays for her on a regular basis. (Colossians 4:2) He does not rule over his wife or family; he is there to serve even as he leads. (Mark 10:45)
5. He takes seriously his responsibility to shepherd his family knowing that he must give an account to the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4)
6. He listens attentively to his wife to grow in his knowledge of her. (Proverbs 31:11)
7. He treats his wife with gentleness and understanding at all times. (1 Peter 3:7)
8. He places the interests of his wife above his own. (Philippians 2:3‐5)
9. He is self‐controlled, kind, humble, and not easily angered. (Galatians 5:22‐23)
10. He is not ruled by alcohol or other forms of intoxication. (Proverbs 20:1)
11. He does not indulge in ungodly passions; instead he disciplines his body to bring it under God’s authority. (Galatians 5:24)
12. He is ruled by Christ and places himself completely under His authority. (1 Corinthians 11:3)
13. He is not wise in his own eyes but relies on the wisdom of God as revealed in His word. (Proverbs 26:12; Psalm 1) Continue reading 23 Biblical Qualities of a Good Husband

11 Relationships and Marriage Killers

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Why do relationships and marriages fail? It amazes me how a couple that can’t take their eyes off each other, will suddenly now can’t stand each other. While there are many different reasons as to why most relationships and marriages end, here are 11 “Marriage killers” shared by D. James Dobson, Relationship expert and Author of many books including, “Love for a lifetime”:

1. Over commitment and physical exhaustion. Beware of this danger. It is especially insidious for young couples who are trying to get started in a profession or in school. Do not try to go to college, work full-time, have a baby, manage a toddler, fix up a house and start a business at the same time. It sounds ridiculous, but many young couples do just that and are surprised when their marriage falls apart. Why wouldn’t it? The only time they see each other is when they are worn out! It is especially dangerous to have the husband vastly overcommitted and the wife staying home with a preschooler. Her profound loneliness builds discontent and depression, and we all know where that leads. You must reserve time for one another if you want to keep your love alive.

2. Excessive credit and conflict over how money will be spent. We’ve said it before: Pay cash for consumable items or don’t buy. Don’t spend more for a house or car than you can afford, leaving too few resources for dating, short trips, baby sitters and so on. Allocate your funds with the wisdom of Solomon.
3. Selfishness. There are two kinds of people in the world, the givers and the takers. A marriage between two givers can be a beautiful thing. Friction is the order of the day, however, for a giver and a taker. But two takers can claw each other to pieces within a period of six weeks. In short, selfishness will devastate a marriage every time.

4. Interference from in-laws. If husbands or wives have not been full emancipated from their parents, it is best not to live near them. Autonomy is difficult for some mothers (and fathers) to grant, and close proximity is built for trouble.

5. Unrealistic expectations. Some couples come into marriage anticipating rose-covered cottages, walks down primrose lanes, and uninterrupted joy. Counsellor Jean Lush believed, and I agree, that this romantic illusion is particularly characteristic of American women who expect more from their husbands than they are capable of delivering. The consequent disappointment is an emotional trap. Bring your expectations in line with reality.
6. Space invaders. This killer will be difficult to describe or understand in such a brief context, but I’ll try. By space invaders, I am not referring to aliens from Mars. Rather, my concern is for those who violate the breathing room needed by their partners, quickly suffocating them and destroying the attraction between them. Jealousy is one way this phenomenon manifests itself. Another is low self-esteem which leads the insecure spouse to trample the territory of the other. Love must be free and it must be confident. Continue reading 11 Relationships and Marriage Killers

13 Ways to Prove Love

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Often when people enter love relationships, or take marriage vows, they often promise to do a lot of beautiful things. Couple promise to stick to each other in good or trying times. They promise love, respect, endure, and tolerate one other. Yet some of these marriages and relationships end up crashing. Is it that there wasn’t love in them? Or we just don’t understand what love means?

There are many definitions of love, but as a person of the Christian faith, I believe this scripture spells out clearly what true love is:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

Here are the characteristics of true love according to the Bible ; Continue reading 13 Ways to Prove Love

5 Ways to Become an Irreplaceable Woman

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The desire of every woman is to have her man to herself. Well ladies, if you want to make yourself irreplaceable, you must learn to meet these important needs of men, in my opinion:

1. Sexual fulfilment: A wife meets this need by becoming a terrific sexual partner. She studies her own sexual response to recognize and understand what brings out the best in her; then she shares this information with him, and together they learn to have a sexual relationship that both find repeatedly satisfying and enjoyable.

2. Physical attractiveness:  Keep yourself physically fit, and in perfect shape. Always make your hair, wearing makeup and clothes in a way that your man finds attractive and tasteful. Most women just let themselves out of shape and unattractive after child birth, never caring how they look. This shouldn’t be the case for the woman who wants to become irreplaceable! If a man is attracted to you at home, he will be proud of you publicly! Continue reading 5 Ways to Become an Irreplaceable Woman

6 Ways to Become an Irreplaceable Man

 

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A man can make himself irreplaceable by his partner, by learning to meet these six most important emotional needs of women.

1. Affection. Her husband tells her that he cares for her with words, cards, flowers, gifts, and common courtesies. He hugs and kisses her many times each day, creating an environment of affection that clearly and repeatedly expresses his care for her.

2. Conversation. He sets aside time every day to talk to her. They may talk about events in their lives, their children, their feelings, or their plans. But whatever the topic, she enjoys the conversation because it is never demanding, judgmental, or angry but always informative and constructive. She talks to him as much as she would like, and he responds with interest. He is never too busy “to just talk.”

3. Honesty and openness. He tells her everything about himself, leaving nothing out that might later surprise her. He describes his positive and negative feelings, events of his past, his daily schedule, and his plans for the future. He never leaves her with a false impression and is truthful about his thoughts, feelings, intentions, and behaviour. Continue reading 6 Ways to Become an Irreplaceable Man

How to Be Happy in Your Relationship or Marriage

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Fate, circumstances, or other people may help you discover love, and from there a love affair starts that may end up in marriage, but fate, circumstances, or people cannot guarantee how happy that relationship or marriage turns out to be. Just like a wise man once put it; “No man ever gained a happy life by chance, or yawned it into being with a wish.”
Yet there are many of us who falsely believe that dating or marrying the person you love is an automatic ticket to a life of happiness, only to discover later on that that happiness in relationships and marriages, must be worked for; must be earned by patient endurance, self-restraint, and an accommodation for the likes and dislikes of your partner.

The reason why there seem to be many tales of unhappiness in relationships and marriages is because many of us expect to find happiness without taking any trouble to make it, or we become so selfishly preoccupied that we cannot enjoy our relationships.
Happiness in love relationships can only be achieved through continuous sacrifice. We fall in love, and get married to end our misery, yet we become more miserable in our relationships, because many of us ignore the law of “self-sacrifice” which operates in all things God created. The law, that states that; it is more blessed to give than to receive. Continue reading How to Be Happy in Your Relationship or Marriage