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6 Ways to Become an Irreplaceable Man

 

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A man can make himself irreplaceable by his partner, by learning to meet these six most important emotional needs of women.

1. Affection. Her husband tells her that he cares for her with words, cards, flowers, gifts, and common courtesies. He hugs and kisses her many times each day, creating an environment of affection that clearly and repeatedly expresses his care for her.

2. Conversation. He sets aside time every day to talk to her. They may talk about events in their lives, their children, their feelings, or their plans. But whatever the topic, she enjoys the conversation because it is never demanding, judgmental, or angry but always informative and constructive. She talks to him as much as she would like, and he responds with interest. He is never too busy “to just talk.”

3. Honesty and openness. He tells her everything about himself, leaving nothing out that might later surprise her. He describes his positive and negative feelings, events of his past, his daily schedule, and his plans for the future. He never leaves her with a false impression and is truthful about his thoughts, feelings, intentions, and behaviour. Continue reading 6 Ways to Become an Irreplaceable Man

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How to Become a Wife: 9 Things Men consider When choosing a Wife

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A friend asked me recently, “Why are there so many eligible Bachelors around? I mean there are many men who have everything going for them yet they are still single…why?” In answering her question, I referred her to the following words from the sages; “Whether a man shall be made or marred by marriage greatly depends upon the choice he makes of a wife.”  “Nothing is better than a good woman nor anything worse than a bad one. Before taking the irrevocable step choose well, for your choice though brief is yet endless.”

Men are always careful about the choice of their wives. That is why you find that a man may go out with just any kind of lady, even shower her with the most expensive of gifts, yet abandon her to marry one who isn’t as exposed, as beautiful, as well connected, as educated as the one he was dating.

In choosing a wife, there are many things a man looks out for, Continue reading How to Become a Wife: 9 Things Men consider When choosing a Wife

8 Things to Consider When Choosing a Husband

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The spate of divorces, tales of heartbreaks; domestic violence; maltreatments; and so many other complains from women in the hands of their spouses, got me really wondering as to what women consider when they choose to date or marry men.

I do know that women are always choosy and careful about things that matter to them. A woman would not hire a housemaid whom they have very little information about; a woman wouldn’t hire a security person whose character hasn’t been proven; women are always careful about their drivers, hairstylist, tailors, and other customers…they go all the lengths just to make sure they can trust these people.

Yet when it comes to marriage, many women are always in haste. And in their haste to be married many women are too easily satisfied with the characters of men who may offer themselves as husbands.

In a rush to beat the “woman clock”, and yielding to family pressures, they cling to any man that comes along, with even less information as to their characters they will accept husbands and vow to love, honour, and obey them! Ladies, marriage isn’t something you do with short term planning or thinking. Continue reading 8 Things to Consider When Choosing a Husband

How to Be Happy in Your Relationship or Marriage

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Fate, circumstances, or other people may help you discover love, and from there a love affair starts that may end up in marriage, but fate, circumstances, or people cannot guarantee how happy that relationship or marriage turns out to be. Just like a wise man once put it; “No man ever gained a happy life by chance, or yawned it into being with a wish.”
Yet there are many of us who falsely believe that dating or marrying the person you love is an automatic ticket to a life of happiness, only to discover later on that that happiness in relationships and marriages, must be worked for; must be earned by patient endurance, self-restraint, and an accommodation for the likes and dislikes of your partner.

The reason why there seem to be many tales of unhappiness in relationships and marriages is because many of us expect to find happiness without taking any trouble to make it, or we become so selfishly preoccupied that we cannot enjoy our relationships.
Happiness in love relationships can only be achieved through continuous sacrifice. We fall in love, and get married to end our misery, yet we become more miserable in our relationships, because many of us ignore the law of “self-sacrifice” which operates in all things God created. The law, that states that; it is more blessed to give than to receive. Continue reading How to Be Happy in Your Relationship or Marriage

10 Signs He is just Not Into You

2573762303_365ac020f8I read a book recently titled; He is just not that into you: the no – excuse truths to understanding guys. Witten by Greg behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. I found it a great read and quite revealing.

Here are 10 signs to knowing if a guy is not into you adapted from the book:

1- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Asking You Out: Because If he likes he will ask you out. “Let me remind you: Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. (Particularly after a difficult day of running the world.) If we want you, we will find you. If you don’t think you gave him enough time to notice you, take the time it took you to notice him and divide it by half.”

2- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Calling You: Men know how to use the phone. Oh sure, they say they’re busy. They say that they didn’t have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. Bullshit. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialling it is almost impossible not to call you… If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you. If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do the same for big things. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs.

3- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Dating You: “Hanging out” is not dating. When you ask someone out on a real bonafide date, you’re making it official: I’d like to see you alone to find out if we have a romantic future together (or at least pretend to listen to you while I ponder whether you’re wearing a thong). In case you need more clues: There’s usually a public excursion, a meal, and some hand-holding involved.

4- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Having Sex with Someone Else: There’s never going to be a good excuse for cheating. Whatever problems you may have been having in your relationship, they didn’t merit him having sex with someone else. Don’t ask what you did wrong. Don’t share the blame. And in case he tells you that it just “happened,” please remember, cheating doesn’t just “happen.” It’s not an accident as in, “Oops, I just slipped and fell into a sexual relationship with someone else.” It was planned and executed with the full knowledge that it could end your relationship.

5- He’s Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants to See You When He’s Drunk: If he likes you, he will want to see you when his judgement isn’t impaired. It doesn’t count unless he says it when he’s sober. An “I Love You” (or any semblance thereof) while under the influence of anything stronger than grape juice won’t hold up in court or in life. Drinking and drug use are not a path to one’s innermost feelings. Otherwise people wouldn’t smash empty beer cans against their skulls or stick their fingers in fire to see if they can feel anything. If he only wants to see you, talk to you, have sex with you, etc., when he’s inebriated, it ain’t love—it’s sport. You deserve to be with someone who doesn’t have to get loaded to be around you.

6- He’s Just Not That Into You If He Doesn’t Want to Marry You: Love cures commitment – phobia. Just remember this. Every man you have ever dated who has said he doesn’t want to get married or doesn’t believe in marriage, or has “issues” with marriage, will, rest assured, someday be married. It just will never be with you. Because he’s not really saying he doesn’t want to get married. He’s saying he doesn’t want to get married to you. There is nothing wrong with wanting to get married. You shouldn’t feel ashamed, needy, or “unliberated” for wanting that. So make sure from the start that you pick a guy who shares your views for the future, and if not, move on as quickly as you can. Big plans require big action

7- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Breaking Up with You: Everyone wants to be loved and needed, particularly by the person who just broke up with us. I understand. What could be better than hearing from the man who just told you he didn’t want you in his life anymore, his sad, wistful “I miss you so much” voice on the other end of the phone? It’s validating. It’s exciting. It’s irresistible. But resist you must. You can’t talk your way out of a breakup. It is not up for discussion. A breakup is a definitive action, not a democratic one. There’s a guy out there who’s going to be really happy that you didn’t get back together with your crappy ex-boyfriend.

8- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Disappeared on You: He’s gone. Poof. Vanished into thin air. Well, there’s no mixed message here. He’s made it clear that he’s so not into you that he couldn’t even bother to leave you a Post-it. This time you may not be so quick to make excuses for his behaviour. It’s so painful, it’s impossible not to be hurt or angry. But because of that, you might be tempted to make some excuses for yourself. You have good reason to want to spend a lot of energy solving the Mystery of the Disappearing Man. But all those excuses, however valid they are, will not help you in the long run. Because the only part of that story that’s important to remember is that he didn’t want to be with you anymore. And he didn’t have the guts to tell you that to your face. Case closed.

9- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Married: He’s married. Unless he’s all yours, he’s still hers. There are cool, loving single men in the world. Find one of them to go out with.

10- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s a Selfish Jerk, a Bully: “He’s got so much good in him. He really does. I just wish he wouldn’t tell me to shut up all the time.” Yeah, that’s a problem. Try not to ignore it. I know “he’s got so many other great qualities.” That’s why you fell in love with him in the first place. Ask yourself one question only: Is he making you happy? People are complicated. That’s why trying to figure them out is a waste of time. Is he making you happy? I don’t mean some of the time, on rare occasions, not that often, “but the good still outweighs the bad.” Does he make it clear in his actions every day that your happiness is important to him? If the answer is no, cut him loose and go find a man with a higher “good count.”

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