Tag Archives: Dating

What it Takes to Be in Love

We don’t live alone in this world. We live in companionships, in families, in friendships, in churches, in communities and to do that require our ability to get along with others. Yet there are some of us who complain about the difficulty of getting along with others.

These type of people are very good on their own, and when alone, where no other life comes in contact with theirs, where they are entirely their own master and have to think only of themselves, and where they can have their own way, who yet make most wretched business of living when they come into living with others.

Unfortunately this seems to be the new code in the world today. Too many messages abound that praise and encourage people to be selfish, tyrannical, absorbing, despotic, and wilful. People are being encouraged to not brook suggestions, request or authority. All around us we find people who will not make any compromise, will not yield their own opinions, preferences, or prejudices, will not submit to any inconveniences, or any sacrifice. Continue reading What it Takes to Be in Love

Advertisements

Don’t Change Her, Just Love Her – Love Lessons From Bruno Mars

Photo credit: flickr.com
Photo credit: flickr.com

Does your spouse/partner have to change before you can love them completely? Personally I think not. I believe love should be unconditional, as there isn’t any flawless human out there. And to the guys who are frustrating their spouses/partners out of the relationships by demanding that they change to fit the perfect image of a lady they have in their heads, they could learn a thing or two from Bruno Mars’ song Just the way you are.

Here are a few tips: Continue reading Don’t Change Her, Just Love Her – Love Lessons From Bruno Mars

4 things The Bible Can Show You About Your Friends

Photo Credit: flickr.com
Photo Credit: flickr.com

Every successful individual I have known, both living and dead, always point out “the right information” and “association” as among factors that are responsible for their success.  Friends the person you will become in future will be determined by the amount of information you have (via books, audio, and video) and the people you associate with. Unfortunately many of us don’t pay attention to the company we keep. Some of you in the name of being social, simple, and loving, roll with virtually any kind of person. Little wonder your lives are going in directions you can’t even understand. 

Everything God created, He created after their kind, that’s why you find that Sheep roll together; Goats move with Goats; Lions walk among Lions; Wolfs keep their company among Wolfs. Why then are you, who is aspiring for greatness be moving with people heading for mediocrity? Friends of course the Bible says we should love all men and be at peace with all men, it also points out clearly the power of association:

“A righteous man is cautious about friendship…” – Proverbs 12:26 – Friends if you have aspirations, dreams and goals of becoming someone great in life, you need to be cautious about the kind of people you keep as friends. Continue reading 4 things The Bible Can Show You About Your Friends

8 Things Every Woman Needs From Her Man By Mary J Blige

Photo credit: flickr.com
Photo credit: flickr.com

When it come to love and loving a lady, there isn’t a one rule fit everyone out there. But while there are many books and articles written over about this topic, there is still a surge in the craving to be loved. In my opinion guys, if you want to learn how to love a woman better, and if your spouse or partner isn’t willing to share with you how she wants you to treat her more lovingly, ask another lady what works.

Here are 8 ways to better love a lady shared by Mary J. Blige multiple award winning American singer, songwriter, model, record producer, and actress. and most importantly, a lady…it may solve that love puzzle of yours and bring back the love you thought you had lost in your relationship:

1. Women need more than material things: Guys this doesn’t mean, you should stop buy them, and spoiling them with the material things that you can afford. It means you shouldn’t think those things can take your place and the time you should spend with her.

2. Women need so much than what a man can say: Most of us guys are cool talkers and charmers with our words. We blow off our ladies with our words only to do the opposite of what we say. Mary J says, don’t talk about it, be about it, let your actions speak more.

3. A woman needs you to make love to her, she needs more than sex.

4. A woman likes to talk and work things out: You will be surprised how much you will accomplish by just spending time and listening to your spouse, laughing at jokes (even though they are terrible). I don’t mean being around her but being absent in your mind and eyes. Women like to talk, and love guys that listen. Continue reading 8 Things Every Woman Needs From Her Man By Mary J Blige

Not Just For The Woman. Men Have Roles Too

Photo Credit: flickr.com
Photo Credit: flickr.com

During a conversation I had with a friend recently, I was asked, should it just be about women? Women be this, be that, do this or that in a relationship or marriage. What about the men don’t they have roles too? This really got me thinking, because truly as the saying goes, it takes two to tango. Men too have roles to play in sustaining their relationships or marriages. We can’t just leave all the changing and doing to women alone!

Every man desires a good wife, but we forget that, as a proverb states, “Good wives and good plantations are made by good husbands.” So you see, your lover, wife is as good as you make them to be. The woman is simply the reflection of her man.  Ladies are always told to be subject to the man, to try and please, show love, affection, be caring, be able to take care of their homes and much more. We forget that no matter how skilful a lady is in the area of home making and “man keeping” if the man doesn’t notice, appreciate, contribute, and compliment her, her efforts will be in vain.

Related: 11 Relationships and Marriage Killers

Several women today are in want of a man who will reciprocate their love, appreciate their good and their self-sacrifice. Many times especially here in Africa, it is the woman takes care of the home and the entire family, combining that with her businesses and careers, and making sure her keep herself in shape to please the man, and as a reward the man doesn’t even notice these efforts.

I have come to discover that sometimes, when relationships and marriages fail, it isn’t because the woman isn’t doing enough, but some men are just so difficult to please. Nothing, no amount of work or sacrifice a lady does is ever enough. They go about finding faults in all things. There are selfish husbands who go about amusing themselves with friends, without giving their women any chance. But does it ever occur to such “Egyptian taskmasters” that all work and no play is quite as bad for women as for men? Continue reading Not Just For The Woman. Men Have Roles Too

10 Dr. Steve Maraboli Relationship Advice for Men

Source: google.com
Source: google.com
Dr. Steve Maraboli is a life-changing Speaker, bestselling Author, and Behavioural Science Academic. His empowering and insightful words have been shared and published throughout the world in more than 25 languages. Here 10 carefully selected quotes to inspire you have better love relationships, and take charge of your life;

  1. Many people make the mistake of expecting others to treat them in a more loving and respectful way than they treat themselves. If you don’t love yourself, stop expecting others to. If you don’t respect yourself, stop expecting others to. If you don’t forgive yourself, stop expecting others to. If you don’t keep promises to yourself, stop expecting others to. If you are not being faithful to your dreams, your goals, and your resolutions, stop expecting others to.”
  2. Only insecure Boys will belittle a woman. The greatest way to “Man-up” is to empower women.
  3. Just because you are available for a relationship doesn’t mean you are ready for one. If you are not comfortable enough with yourself or with your own truth, when entering a relationship, then you are not ready for that relationship. Don’t make the other person suffer for your own lack of integrity or inability to embrace the truths of your life.
  4. Continue reading 10 Dr. Steve Maraboli Relationship Advice for Men

13 Ways to Prove Love

Photo Credit: flickr.com
Photo Credit: flickr.com

Often when people enter love relationships, or take marriage vows, they often promise to do a lot of beautiful things. Couple promise to stick to each other in good or trying times. They promise love, respect, endure, and tolerate one other. Yet some of these marriages and relationships end up crashing. Is it that there wasn’t love in them? Or we just don’t understand what love means?

There are many definitions of love, but as a person of the Christian faith, I believe this scripture spells out clearly what true love is:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”

Here are the characteristics of true love according to the Bible ; Continue reading 13 Ways to Prove Love