“None of us can change our yesterdays, but all of us can change our tomorrows.” –Colin Powel (Former US Secretary of State)
Most of us go through life as if we have a big anchor behind us, that is weighing us down. If we could just release it, we would be able to move faster and succeedin life more easily. Are you holding on to past hurts, past anger, or fear? The truth is we need to let go of the past to embrace the future by forgiving and moving on.
“As long as you don’t forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy rent-free space in your minds”—Isabelle Holland. Folks, anger, resentment and the need for revenge do waste valuable energy that could be directed toward positive actions.
I know how hard it is to forgive and move on. I have been robbed of my actual exams grade, I have been heartbroken and betrayed my people I really loved, I have been taken advantaged of in some of my business dealings, I have been wrongly accused of something I never did. But after each of these experiences, I forgave the other party because I know that if I didn’t, past hurts would eat away at me and prevent me from focusing on my future. Believe me whatever hurt you are feeling, know that I have felt some of them too.
Here are 6 steps that would guide us in the process of forgiving:
1- Acknowledge your anger and resentment
2- Acknowledge the hurt and pain it created
3- Acknowledge the tears and self doubts it created
4- Own any part you may have played in letting it occur or letting it continue
5- Acknowledge what you were wanting that you didn’t get, and then put yourself in the other person’s shoes and attempt to understand where he or she was coming from at that time, and what needs the person was trying to meet by his or her behaviour
6- Let go and forgive the person.
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