Blessings can sometimes turn to a curse in one’s life. Even kindness may be overdone. One may be too gentle. Love may hold others back from their purpose and wreck their destinies. There are times when in the process loving others we meddle with God’s discipline for them.
Of course, we are to be helpful to others. No aim should be put higher in our life-plans than that of personal helpfulness. The motto of the true Christian cannot be other than that of the Master: “Not to be ministered unto, but to minister.”
Even in the ambition to gather and retain wealth, the spirit of the desire must be, if we are Christians at all, that thereby we may become more helpful to others; that through, or by means of, our wealth, we may be enabled to do larger and greater good. Whatever gift, power, or possession we have that we do not seek to use in this way is not yet truly devoted to God.
There are many ways to help others, yet too often most people think if you are not giving material things out, you are not helping, yet the truest and best help anyone can give to others is not in material things, but in ways that make them stronger and better. Money is good alms when money is really needed, but in comparison with the divine gifts of hope, friendship, courage, sympathy, and love, it is paltry and poor. Continue reading The Danger in Helping Too Much→
Learn to take advantage of your neighbours, friends, relatives and associates, and get the best of them. Now, don’t be shocked. Let me explain. In every respectable person you know there are desirable traits of character. In every loving friend, there are qualities that you need.
Our associations influence us whether we believe it or not. And the late Jim Rohn said, and this has been widely proven by the way, “we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.”
Take advantage of your associations with these good people, select the best there is in their natures, and embody their virtues in yourself. Never mind their faults. You have enough of your own. You will find what you are looking for. You will embody what you recognize and admire; therefore look for the elements of success and admire and cherish the virtues of your friends.
Last week I was with a group of people, and while I was sharing some ideas with them, someone moved next to me and said, “Vincent I know you are an inspirational speaker and you always encourage people to stay positive and all, but I am going to watch you. I live close to you. I am going to find all your weak points and detect your meanness.” Continue reading Always Get the Best of People→
We need people in our lives. No one can make it alone that is why there has never been a rich hermit. But in order for you to become successful, to make your dreams come true and to live your greatest life, you must stay away from certain persons.
There are certain people who hinder others and make it harder for others to live. They are DISCOURAGERS. Instead of being wings to enable you fly, they are weights that will pull you down. They never have any positive, cheerful, hopeful word for anyone. Instead they always find a way to kill your spirits, kill your hopes, and put clouds into clear skies.
These individuals seem to think that it is a sin to be happy themselves, or to encourage happiness in others. They find all the shadows in life and persist in walking in them. They magnify small issues into big troubles.
These kind of people are always gloomy themselves and so they send out darkness and never brightness to others wherever they go. They make life harder for those they associate with or influence. Instead of comforting you, they make sorrows harder to bear, because they exaggerate it and blot out all the stars of hope that God has sent to shine in our world.
It doesn’t matter how smart you are. It doesn’t matter how talented you are, which skills have, where you are born, or which family you came from. One thing that counts if you want to be successful in life is the people you surround yourself with.
Do you have the right people around you? Do you have the right friends?
You may need new sets of friends after listening to this audio I made for you, ” Why you need the right friends”
We are greatly influenced whether we like it or not by those closest to us. They affect our ways of thinking, our self esteem, and the decisions we make in life. Really take a look at your relationships, the people you are involved with, the people you communicate with most of the time and ask yourself, what am I becoming because of this relationship? Does it inspire me? Am I motivated? Am I encouraged and driven to develop myself? Am I seeking my own greatness? What kind of person am I becoming because of these relationships? Am I becoming more cynical and negative about life?
Make the choice today about who you want to continue spending your time with. If you want to be successful, mix with people who have achieved higher success than you dream of. Make friends with people who are more knowledgeable than you, people who can help you develop in areas where you are lacking. Associate only with those whose minds are worth measuring your own against.
Back in the day one Nigerian musician sang, “when the going is smooth and good, many, many people will be your friends…they will call you many names, they will say they love you, they will say they need you, they will say you are great and so on and so forth.” Agreeing with the old saying that success has many friends.
I bet there are many of you who at some point or the other experienced having many friends when the going was good for you. People don’t often appreciate adversity, most people never believe that everything that happens to us no matter how bad it may appear has some good embedded in it. And one of the good things about adversity or setbacks is that it reveals to us who our true friends are.
Many of us will realize when we are hit by some sudden misfortune that those people we called friends when we were doing so good were actually acquaintances who our successes, jobs or businesses attracted to us as you will indeed be very lucky if you still have a handful of real friends during those periods. If you want to know who your true friends are during challenging periods, ask them for help. Continue reading You Don’t Have Any Friends Until You Are Faced With Difficulty Yet→
People help people succeed. You can’t succeed without the help and support of other people so if you live your life without cooperating or associating with other people you better have a rethink because your success in life depends on that.
One way to get people to help you is for you to first be the one helping others. Go out of your way to assist, encourage or inspire other people around you to succeed. When you make it a lifestyle to encourage others and to help them advance in their lives whenever possible, most will reciprocate when you need their help. Give generously, and you will benefit in kind.
Remember the golden rule, do unto others what you expect them to do to you. Live your greatest life!
We need to be careful how we open up our plans and dreams to other people. While we need people to help us grow, not all people are happy about the advancements we make in life. A wise man once said and I agree, “People want you to succeed but not that much.” The natural mind has some elements of jealousy in it. Not all friends mean well for you; not all of them want you to be ahead of them.
Look around you and you will find marriages and relationships that have been ruined because someone they trusted with information betrayed them. I have seen business opportunities stolen; I have seen jobs lost because people weren’t too happy that one of the parties was being successful. Who do you have in your close network? Who do you share your dreams and goals with? It’s time to take a closer look at your associates and friends or risk being heartbroken. Continue reading Be Careful Who You Share Your Dreams With→
Every successful individual I have known, both living and dead, always point out “the right information” and “association” as among factors that are responsible for their success. Friends the person you will become in future will be determined by the amount of information you have (via books, audio, and video) and the people you associate with. Unfortunately many of us don’t pay attention to the company we keep. Some of you in the name of being social, simple, and loving, roll with virtually any kind of person. Little wonder your lives are going in directions you can’t even understand.
Everything God created, He created after their kind, that’s why you find that Sheep roll together; Goats move with Goats; Lions walk among Lions; Wolfs keep their company among Wolfs. Why then are you, who is aspiring for greatness be moving with people heading for mediocrity? Friends of course the Bible says we should love all men and be at peace with all men, it also points out clearly the power of association: