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Don’t Put Off Living

Many of us believe that we will be happy once we achieve some specific goals that we have set for ourselves. Maybe the goal is getting a promotion at work, getting a new job, getting married, driving a nicer car, and so on. But too often, we discover that even after attaining those goals, we still aren’t happy with our lives. Dale Carnegie once wrote; “one of the most tragic things I know about the human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of engaging the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.”

Let us not put off living today, and be like “the child who says ‘Someday when I am a big boy.’ The big boy says ‘Some day when I grow up.’ And then grown up he says ‘Someday when I get married.’ After he is married, the thought changes to ‘Someday when I am able to retire.’ And then when retirement comes, he looks back over the landscape traversed; a cold wind seem to sweep over it, somehow he has missed it all, and it is gone. Life, we learn too late, is in the living in the tissue of everyday and hour.” – Dale Carnegie

Folks let us be appreciative of where we are, what we have right now. Don’t put off being happy today until tomorrow, or until you have certain goals or success, because while you will be happy when your goals, and dreams have been realized, you will discover that the happiness is only momentarily and then you are off again to seek further sources of happiness.

“By continuously engaging in the cycle of longing, you never actually allow yourself to be in the present. You end up living your life at some point just off in the future. You only have one moment – the one right here, right now. If you skip over ‘here’ in your rush to get ‘there’, you deny yourself the full range of feelings and sensations that can only be experienced in the present moment.” – Cherie Carter – Scott.

Our present moment is a mystery that we are part of….Here and now is where all the wonder of life lies hidden…when all is said and done, now is all there is, and all there ever has been. – Dr. Wayne Dyer

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Just Be Glad

The following excerpt is taken from Just Be Glad by Christian D. Larson. Read it, Study it, and make it your lifestyle…

Just be glad, and you always will be glad.

When you are tempted to feel discouraged or disappointed, be glad instead. Know that you can, say that you will, and stand uncompromisingly upon your resolve.

When things are not to your liking, be glad nevertheless, for the glad heart can cause all things to be as we wish them to be. When things do not give you pleasure, proceed instead to create pleasure in your own heart and soul. And you can if you will always be glad.

When things do not please you, resolve to please yourself by being glad, and you can add immeasurably to your happiness in this simple manner. Then you must remember that the fountain of joy within your own soul is infinitely greater than all external sources of joy combined

When evil befalls you, consider the fact that the good that is yet in your possession is many times as great as all the evil you could ever know. Consider this stupendous fact and be glad.

If you have lost anything, have no regrets. Be glad and begin again. Be glad that you can begin again. Be glad to know that the future is always richer and better than the past if we only try to make it so. Then forget the loss, and rejoice in the fact that you have the power to secure something far better in return.

When fate seems unkind, do not be unkind to yourself by becoming disheartened or dismayed. Instead, rejoice in the great fact that you are greater and stronger than any fate; that you have the power to master your whole life, and determine your destiny according to your own invincible will.

When calamities or catastrophes have overtaken your life, do not think that fate or Providence has ordered it so. Do not think that it has to be. Instead, forget the sorrow and the loss, and congratulate yourself over the fact that you now have the privilege to build for greater things than you ever knew before. Do not weep over loss; but rejoice to think that now you are called upon to prove the greater wisdom and power within you… for all things respond to the call of rejoicing; all things gather where life is a song.

Be glad for the things you have, and you will find you have far more than you thought. Then you will not miss, in the least, the things you have not. Besides, the happier you are over what has come to you, the more and the more will come to you in the future.

When things go wrong, do not become disheartened; it is much easier to set them right when your soul is full of sunshine; so just be glad. It is the best way out. When all seems lost, remember that it requires strength to regain everything; and it is the glad heart that remains strong. When the heart saddens, weakness will overtake you, and it will not be possible to regain your position. So therefore be glad regardless of what may transpire.

WHETHER we believe that life was made for happiness or that happiness was made for life, matters not. The fact remains that he alone can live the most and enjoy the best who takes for his motto – Just be glad. Whatever comes, or whatever may fail to come, this one thing he will always remember -Just be glad.

“This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little cold of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.”

– George Bernard Shaw

8 Ways To Stay Happy, No Matter What.

When “The thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy…”your peace, happiness, dreams, goals, relationships, success etc, fight back by affirming and deciding that; No matter what challenges, setbacks, opposition, misfortune, delays, betrayals, negativity, rejection I face TODAY:

1. I will be as cheerful as possible.

2. I will try to feel and act a little more friendly toward other people.

3. I am going to be a little less critical and a little more tolerant of other people, their faults, failings and mistakes. I will place the best possible interpretation upon their actions.

4. As much as possible, I am going to act as if success were inevitable, and I already am the sort of personality I want to be. I will practice “acting like” and “feeling like” this new personality.

5. I will not let my own opinion colour facts in a pessimistic or negative way.

6. I will practice smiling regularly.

7. Regardless of what happens, I will react as calmly and as intelligently as possible.

8. I will ignore completely and close my mind to all those pessimistic and negative events which I can do nothing to change.

Each of these simple but powerful habitual ways of acting, feeling, thinking can benefit you and lead you to a life of greatness. Act them out. “Experience” them, and see worry, guilt, hostility diminish and your confidence increase.

What Does It Take To Make You Happy?

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We all desire to be happy and fulfilled, but too often, we demand too much of ourselves, others, and life in general. We take things too seriously and set strict criteria for what will make us happy. For some of us, when these criteria are not met, we develop attitudes that would make things worse; we become agitated and anxious, proving to be a thorn in the flesh of those around us.

Poor attitude has ruined many a relationship. So many relationships fail because one or both of the partners involved demanded too much of the other. Folks, “not everyone is perfectly neat, beautiful, charming, loving, funny, or attentive all the time. Life isn’t a romance novel. Barbie and Ken are plastic.”

When you find yourself becoming so anxious and worried when things don’t go your way, ask yourself;

What does it take to make me happy?

Do I have to be happy every minute of the day?

Does everyone have to do what I want them to do?

Does every aspect of my work have to be fulfilling all the time?

Do I have to make more money than everyone else?

Do I have to be rewarded and appreciated for everything I do?

Do I have to be loved by everyone I know?

Pondering over, and answering these questions honestly, would lead us to the realization that “it is easy to be happy, if you can find happiness in small doses. But if you set impossible criteria for happiness, then it will be all but impossible for you to be happy.”

7 IDEAS TO CREATE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR PARTNERS

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Here are some ideas from family and relationship counsellors that can help us create and maintain healthy relationships with our partners:

1- Don’t make promises you can’t or won’t keep. Be reliable in small things.

2- Keep short-term arguments in perspective. These will pass if they’re not blown out of proportion.

3- Give thought to the purpose of your relationship. Be clear about what you want and the value of what you’re trying to achieve.

4- Don’t assume the worst every time you have the same hassle. Many fights are triggered by similar events. Examine and try to change negative pattern interactions in your relationship.

5- Re-pledge yourselves to each other aloud occasionally.

6- Keep a journal and photo albums. Read about – or look at − the good times, when things get tough.

7- Examine the key dimensions of your relationship. Look for ways to strengthen your attraction to each other, improve your communication, feel more trust, have more strength of purpose and enhance your enjoyment of each other.

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