I had an interaction with someone recently, and when I asked him why he had to indulge in some of the things he was into, he responded that he was enjoying his youth now that he is still long because that phase won’t last long.
Thinking about what he said, I realized just how many people, both young and old have this view – wasting their lives and term it “enjoyment” or “pleasure” or “flexing.” The truth is if you live right and constantly improve yourself, you will enjoy life every day as long as you live.
That people, especially young people should waste their time on cheap and senseless pleasure, and that old people should live a dejected and uninteresting life is an idea that doesn’t belong in this age of information and technology advancement.
Strive to use your time well while you are young and you will stay young, and better more, you will become something and someone of impact in our world. The question you should ask is not whether you shouldn’t enjoy yourself, rather ask yourself whether it is okay to remain in mediocrity, with nothing but common pleasures, when it is possible for you to live your greatest life and have the best of what your world can offer. Continue reading How to Move Away From Mediocrity→
Are comfort zones really that comfortable? I doubt that! The major reason why we remain in our comfort zones isn’t because where we are is so comfortable, but it is because we are afraid. We are afraid of starting over, afraid of failing, afraid of succeeding, afraid of the time it will take and the energy/money/resources we will expend and therefore we settle for where we are.
But everything in life has a price, even our comfort zones can be very costly in the end. Just like the sad story of a woman who was alledgedly murdered by the husband. As I read that story and the many reactions that have been following it, all I could ask was why didn’t she leave?
Like most Nigerian women I know who are enduring abusive marriages, their response is always, “who will take care of my children when I leave?” But now that she is dead, who will take care of the children? Continue reading Are Comfort Zones Comfortable?→
It was said of Abraham Lincoln that when his mother was about to die, and he was by her sick bed she said to him “Be somebody Abe” and Abraham Lincoln took those words to heart. Little wonder he strived all his life and never gave up in spite of the number of times he tried and failed until he became somebody.
Many of us today need to be told those same words because we have settled into being “nobodies”. Or in the words of Zig Ziglar we have become wondering generalities. God created you to make impact, to become somebody in this world. He never intended anyone to be and die in mediocrity. It is time for us to do an inner inspection of our gifts, talents, skills, abilities given to us by God that we have allowed to become dormant.
Take a look at your life are you living at your best? Is the person you are right now, the best you could have been given the amount of investment made on you by God? Are the results you are producing now the best you could have produced given your talents and creativity? Continue reading Be Somebody!→
Maybe this is the case with you; you are unhappy and dissatisfied with yourself and your achievements. You look at yourself and become sad because you aren’t a genius; you were born without any special talents; you are just ordinary; no rich family; no good education. Mediocrity seems to be the measure of your existence. None of your days are note- worthy, except for their sameness and lack of zest. In spite of what your life may look like right now, don’t give up. Don’t be frustrated.
I used to think so about my life too. Nothing about me seem great, I always wondered what impact my life was making. If I was touching any life at all with my messages; if people were ever listening to me. I look at the great names out there inspiring people, the blogs with thousands of followers and readers, the authors whose books have impacted several generations, and I shrink.
I read about an experiment where researchers placed a large fish in the middle of an aquarium with minnows to feed on. The fish fed to its delight. Then the researchers decided to place a glass partition in the aquarium, dividing it in two. After the fish had eaten all of the minnows on his side of the partition, it could see the other minnows through the glass but it couldn’t get to them. It thrashed, bumped, and bashed its body against the glass partition, but to no avail. Since it couldn’t get to them, it formed the belief that it was impossible for it to get those minnows. It gave up and stopped trying.
Then the researchers removed the glass partition and allowed the minnows to swim all around it. It could see them and feel them but since it believed those minnows were no longer available to him, that they were forever locked away from its reach. It starved to death in the middle of an aquarium full of food.
Everywhere you look, people are starving to death in the middle of aquarium teeming with food.Everywhere you look, people are blinded to the prosperity that surrounds them, deaf to the sound of opportunity knocking on their own front door, insensitive to the intuitive feelings that flood their entire being.
Some say they have been chained by circumstances; a lack of good education, poor parentage, etc. But really, you are held back not by these things but by your beliefs. You see, it has been proven by so many authorities in science, religion, psychology, even by others who have succeeded, that you can improve your outer condition if you improve your inner life. Continue reading How Our Beliefs Shape Us→