We all have dreams. For some of us our dreams maybe to have a good house, to drive a nice car, get married, have loving partner, go on vacation, change careers, start a business….the list is endless.
What is that thing that you want to do, that you know you need to do but for one reason or the other you are holding back? You haven’t been able to gather your nerves to do it, but you know you ought to do it, and in fact you really want to do it but you don’t know why you haven’t done anything about it.
Deciding to act is a major challenge to most of us, and I do know acting on your dreams is never easy but in other to re-invent your life, you have to make a conscious and deliberate effort, and this is a very challenging thing to do. But you see everyone who has ever made it to the top in life didn’t just land there, they worked their way up there. They overcame their fears, they challenged themselves to do that which they feared. Some of us won’t make a decision about our lives until there’s a crisis situation. For example you want to lose weight, but you won’t act to eat healthy foods and exercise your body until you are plagued by an ailment like diabetes, then you can’t because life has now acted on you.
Some of things holding us back from acting on our dreams include:
#1 Fear of the unknown; some people live their whole lives afraid of the unknown. Progress in life is impossible if you always do things the way you have always done them. So long as you are willing to stay where you are on familiar grounds and not take risks to try out new things you can’t grow nor achieve your dreams.
#2 Fear of failure; so many of us are scared of failing at anything in life. We forget that all the greatest inventions were made after several attempts because the inventors won’t give up. Failure gives you a mastery over that which you are trying to achieve.
#3 Fear of loss; sometimes most of us fear that if we do what needs to be done, we might lose somebody, our relationship, our job, etc. We sacrifice our lives and dreams on the altar of trying to be considerate and nice. Folks there are some necessary loses in life, accept your losses and live your dreams.
#4 Approval; so many of us are afraid to act our dreams because of other peoples’ approval and opinions. We find it difficult to make major decisions because we care a lot about what other people think; our parents, teachers, co-workers…we want to please everybody, but it is impossible in life.
#5 Lack of self-confidence: A lot of people do not believe in themselves and in their capabilities. We just go about thinking we can’t make it work, or we don’t deserve anything good. A lot of us are in abusive and draining relationships but we won’t come out because we don’t believe we deserve a better partner. To some our jobs are making us sick, we find and take any reason to be absent from work yet we are too scared to explore other avenues. We just won’t act.
#6 Accepting Responsibility: Many individuals today, do not want to take personal responsibility over their lives, we want someone else to do it for us. We don’t want to accept life’s challenges; all we want to do is to watch from the sidelines.
HOW TO OVERCOME
The only way you overcome fear is facing it. Know that fear is imaginary as most of the things we are afraid of do not exist, they are only made up by our minds. Most things we envision that are going to be terrible, all the disaster that we think are going to befall us as a result of facing our fears, taking risks, they are all just in our heads. When you get out there and do it, get the new job, get out of that toxic relationship, or relocate to a place you’ve always wanted to be, you discover that somehow things work out for you.
Use your failures and rejection to drive you to success. If you don’t have self confidence in yourself, get up and do anything that will make you feel a little bit better about yourself. Achieving self confidence is from ‘doing’. Like Dr. Wayne Dyer says “I hear I forget, I see I remember, I do and I understand, and not one moment before.” You have to keep doing and doing until you become a person who has confidence.
So right now decide what you want in life, what you want to achieve, and write down why you know you must take action. It is important you are very clear and descriptive in your reasons. Because trust me your reasons will be the driving force, your reasons have power, and when you will be faced with doubts, when your faith drops, your reasons will fortify you. When you will be faced with opposition, and your inner voices begin to tell you, don’t do this or that, you can’t achieve all these, you are not meant for greatness, look at your family nobody’s ever reached here….your reasons will be your comfort in that period.
You have what it takes to overcome obstacles folks. “you are the light of the world…the salt of the earth..” just make that definitive decision to act. The world is waiting for your light. Act Now!