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20 SIGNS YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE OR VIOLENT RELATIONSHIP

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Below are the characteristics of an abusive or violent person according to Sandra L. Brown M.A (psychotherapist, lecturer and consultant in the field of psychopathology)
1. Talks down on you, criticizes you, calls you names, or otherwise uses belittling language against you.
2. Refers to his or her previous partners in negative, demeaning ways
3. Attempts to control or dominate your life choices, small or large.
4. Tries to dictate your spiritual or religious beliefs
5. He or she is frequently irritable
6. Raises his or her voice, yells or screams, even when carrying on a normal conversation.
7. Yells and screams and seems “too worked up” when he or she gets into an argument with you.
8. Has a history of assaults against other people
9. Becomes violent or out of control when using drugs or alcohol
10. Punches walls or throws things when angry
11. Seems to experience anger as his or her most frequent emotion
12. Blames you for his or her anger or outbursts
13. Has trouble in other relationships because of his anger
14. Has been expelled or suspended from school or work for anger or fighting
15. Hangs around other people known to be violent
16. Has a short fuse or a hot temper
17. Gets angry when confronted, questioned, or corrected
18. Is preoccupied with violent movies, TV, or video games
19. Idealizes acts of violence and destruction
20. Uses words such as “killed”, “smashed”, and “kicked” in his or her everyday language.

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5o Inspirational Quotes To Get You Through Today.

n620948255_1448903_2131386Be inspired to live your greatest life, with these carefully selected 50 inspirational quotes from men and women who have overcome the challenges you are facing now.

1. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. –Maya Angelou
2. Either you run the day, or the day runs you. –Jim Rohn
3. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right. –Henry Ford
4. The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. –Mark Twain
5. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. –Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
6. The best revenge is massive success. –Frank Sinatra
7. People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily. –Zig Ziglar
8. Inspiration exists, but it must find you working. –Pablo Picasso
9. If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced. –Vincent Van Gogh
10. There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. –Aristotle
11. Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal. –Henry Ford
12. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. –Ralph Waldo Emerson
13. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. –Henry David Thoreau
14. When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, I used everything you gave me. –Erma Bombeck
15. Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What’s in it for me?” – Brian Tracy
16. Certain things catch your eye, but pursue only those that capture the heart. – Ancient Indian Proverb
17. Believe you can and you’re halfway there. –Theodore Roosevelt
18. Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear. –George Addair
19. We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. –Plato
20. Once you choose hope, anything’s possible. –Christopher Reeve
21. Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. –Arthur Ashe
22. When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life. –John Lennon
23. Fall seven times and stand up eight. –Japanese Proverb
24. When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us. –Helen Keller
25. Everything has beauty, but not everyone can see. –Confucious
26. How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. –Anne Frank
27. When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. –Lao Tzu
28. The difference between a successful person and others is not lack of strength not a lack of knowledge but rather a lack of will. –Vince Lombardi
29. Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions. –Dalai Lama
30. The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible. –Arthur C. Clarke
31. First, have a definite, clear practical ideal; a goal, an objective. Second, have the necessary means to achieve your ends; wisdom, money, materials, and methods. Third, adjust all your means to that end. –Aristotle
32. If the wind will not serve, take to the oars. –Latin Proverb
33. You can’t fall if you don’t climb. But there’s no joy in living your whole life on the ground. –Unknown
34. Whoever loves much, performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well. –Vincent Van Gogh
35. Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. –Les Brown
36. Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful. –Joshua J. Marine
37. The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing. –Walt Disney
38. I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do. –Leonardo da Vinci
39. Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless. – Jamie Paolinetti
40. Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free. –Jim Morrison
41. What’s money? A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do. –Bob Dylan
42. I didn’t fail the test. I just found 100 ways to do it wrong. –Benjamin Franklin
43. In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure. –Bill Cosby
44. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. – Albert Einstein
45. The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person who is doing it. –Chinese Proverb
46. There are no traffic jams along the extra mile. –Roger Staubach
47. It is never too late to be what you might have been. –George Eliot
48. You become what you believe. –Oprah Winfrey
49. I would rather die of passion than of boredom. –Vincent van Gogh
50. A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty. –Unknown

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HELP OTHERS – HELP YOURSELF!

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A man who was hiking in the mountains was taken by surprise in a sudden snow storm and quickly lost his way. He knew he needed to find shelter fast, or he would freeze to death. Despite all of his efforts, his hands and feet quickly went numb. In his wandering he literally tripped over another man who was almost frozen. The hiker had to make a decision: should he help the man or should he continue in hopes of saving himself.

In an instant he made a decision and threw off his wet gloves. He knelt beside the man and begun massaging his arms and legs. After the hiker had worked a few minutes, the man began to respond and was soon able to get on his feet. Together the two men, supporting each other, found help.
The hiker was later informed that by helping another, he had helped himself. His numbness vanished while he was massaging the stranger’s arms and legs. His heightened activity had enhanced his circulation and brought warmth to his hands and feet.

Folks when the hiker lost sight of his predicament and focused on helping the other man, he solved his own problem, just as it is written in the gospel of Luke 6:38 “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”
Do you need love? Then give out love to somebody today. The quickest way to get to the peak of life is to forget about self and help others reach greater heights.“The best antidote I know for worry is work. The best cure for weariness is the challenge of helping someone who is even more tired. One of the great ironies of life is this: He or she who serves almost always benefits more than he or she who is served.” ― Gordon B. Hinckley