Some years ago when I just left the University and was still job hunting, I used to feel very frustrated and sad about the slow pace of my life; I didn’t have a job yet, I was still living with my parents and I was far away from most of my goals. This feeling always becomes worse when I meet an old school mate or someone I knew back then who is doing better than me.
As I grew closer to God and devoted my life to reading more, I realized that there isn’t any need to compare my lie with others, as most times it leads to anger, envy or depression which will inhibit our own growth. I also discover that in life we must not all begin our journey at the same time and it is irrelevant if others have left you behind as long as you are focused on where you are going.
Are you going through this phase in your life? Are you constantly measuring your success with that of others? Or is someone close to you always comparing you with other people and making you feel like you are not doing much in your life. My friend if that is the case with you, I want you to remember these words from the scripture spoken by the wisest man that ever lived; “I have observed something else under the sun. The fastest runner doesn’t always win the race, and the strongest warrior doesn’t always win the battle. The wise sometimes go hungry, and the skilful are not necessarily wealthy. And those who are educated don’t always lead successful lives. But time and chance happened to them all.” Continue reading Life isn’t a Competition→
There was a time I used to think that there were things in life I need to have to make my life complete. Back then I would look at people who have those things and imagine how happy they were, and wondered when I will get to that level and how happy I will become. but as God began to bless me with some of the things I desired, I found out that my possession of those things didn’t bring all the happiness and bliss I thought they had in them. of course I was happy, but my happiness was only momentarily.
Unfortunately today many people still think this way; they think that if they have those things they want, they will be happy and fulfilled in life which isn’t true because even if you have everything on your wish list; money, love, power, friends, perfect health and body etc, within a short period of time you will still become unfulfilled and unhappy. You will still be looking outside again for something more or better.
The secret to finding true joy and bliss has been given to us but many of us fail to realize it because it is quite simple. The secret if found in Matthew 6:23 in the Bible: “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” You can’t find joy and happiness by going after material possessions but by seeking for God’s kingdom and living right. Only then will you see that you have happiness inside you. Continue reading The Way to Bliss→
Many people these days are looking for big opportunities to serve. Everyone wants to appear in a big stage; speakers and preachers want to speak before crowds of thousands. Only very few people are willing to express their gifts or serve God in a small capacity. It’s especially painful when “Men of God” do this, when they feel too big and important to preach or teach in a small church or event, they are always looking for the packed halls and stadia.
Thank God our God isn’t a respecter of persons, so He doesn’t rate you by the number of social media followers you have, or by the size of the crowds you’ve stood before. It is only man thst is obsessed with “scale” “rating” “size” “status” “followers”. Our God is too great a God to need your great deeds. As long as we are using our gifts/talents to work for Him where we find ourselves it really doesn’t make any difference whether we do our work in a remote village, attending to people who wouldn’t be able to repay our sacrifices or we are serving thousands of people daily.
Folks the little things you do that a lot of people leave undone, the small services you render that are despised by the big crowd loving guys are great enough to glorify God as long as you are doing them for God.
Stop crying and complaining that you haven’t been able to have a perfect life. Some people blame and hate themselves for failing, falling or not meeting their goals or some set standards even when God who created you knows and doesn’t expect you to be perfect in this world. God created us as human beings in His image, with a combination of faith and frailty, sometimes we aim high and sometimes fall short; sometimes we get some things wonderfully right and other times terribly wrong.
If you have failed today or experiencing some challenge or the other, do not despair or hate yourself for it, never consider yourself a failure because tomorrow is another day and you will have fresh opportunities to make up for your missed chances.
No life is sweet all the time. No one experiences successes and victories all the time, the same way the day gives way for the night that’s the same with our lives, we win some and lose some; we laugh sometimes and cry other times. Such is life. Let’s learn to accept it and live it!
Some people are constantly looking for opportunities to criticize and complain about others. Nothing is ever good in their eyes. I meet some of these people most of the time, they complain about the weather, the traffic, the food and so on. Recently I attended a wedding and sat close to one of these folks and in spite of the many good things one could say about a wedding, this guy kept pointing out things he didn’t like about the wedding as if he contributed a dime to the wedding.
I believe that even the worst circumstances we can always find many good things to talk about if we look for them. Your spouse isn’t bad all the time; children don’t misbehave all the time; your boss isn’t bossy all the time. Let us learn to develop the habit of looking for the best in people and in every situation we find ourselves in.
Always look for something good to praise and endorse. Look for the best around you and think good thoughts about others, knowing that your thoughts always yield results after their kind. If you want to see good in your life, think good thoughts about yourself and others. Moreover the habit of constantly seeking for the good in others and praising them will uplift our own spirits. Continue reading Use Your Words to Build, Not to Destroy→
You are responsible for the results you are achieving both now and in the future. Yet many of us always assume that we need the influences of others before we can do better or accomplish more in our lives. Folks realize that God has deposited all the power, energy, ability and resources for building a highly successful life in you, and that all you need do is to look inwards and start trusting yourself to take action on your life.
Every one of us has a gift which is distinctively ours. And we all have a responsibility to discover, develop and use our individual gifts. The fact that your gift isn’t as loud as that of others doesn’t make it less valuable and impactful. You also do not need to have many talents and the ability to do many different things to be successful but rather your success is determined by your ability to make practical use of your one great talent given to you by God. Continue reading Less is More→
We need to be careful how we open up our plans and dreams to other people. While we need people to help us grow, not all people are happy about the advancements we make in life. A wise man once said and I agree, “People want you to succeed but not that much.” The natural mind has some elements of jealousy in it. Not all friends mean well for you; not all of them want you to be ahead of them.
Look around you and you will find marriages and relationships that have been ruined because someone they trusted with information betrayed them. I have seen business opportunities stolen; I have seen jobs lost because people weren’t too happy that one of the parties was being successful. Who do you have in your close network? Who do you share your dreams and goals with? It’s time to take a closer look at your associates and friends or risk being heartbroken. Continue reading Be Careful Who You Share Your Dreams With→