We are greatly influenced whether we like it or not by those closest to us. They affect our ways of thinking, our self esteem, and the decisions we make in life. Really take a look at your relationships, the people you are involved with, the people you communicate with most of the time and ask yourself, what am I becoming because of this relationship? Does it inspire me? Am I motivated? Am I encouraged and driven to develop myself? Am I seeking my own greatness? What kind of person am I becoming because of these relationships? Am I becoming more cynical and negative about life?
Make the choice today about who you want to continue spending your time with. If you want to be successful, mix with people who have achieved higher success than you dream of. Make friends with people who are more knowledgeable than you, people who can help you develop in areas where you are lacking. Associate only with those whose minds are worth measuring your own against.
People help people succeed. You can’t succeed without the help and support of other people so if you live your life without cooperating or associating with other people you better have a rethink because your success in life depends on that.
One way to get people to help you is for you to first be the one helping others. Go out of your way to assist, encourage or inspire other people around you to succeed. When you make it a lifestyle to encourage others and to help them advance in their lives whenever possible, most will reciprocate when you need their help. Give generously, and you will benefit in kind.
Remember the golden rule, do unto others what you expect them to do to you. Live your greatest life!
Some news I received yesterday made begin to ask, “why don’t we take care of our old people in these parts, especially our poor old people? Instead of helping them we abandon them, praying for them to die. “He/she is a burden now”, “they are too old and sickly”, we say most of the time. When they fall sick, we never always have money to give them the best treatment we can afford that they deserve.
Every day in the news, what you read, hear or watch is the talk about hunger, poverty and death. The world is seeking for ways to feed people and we forget that there are more people in this world who are hungry for kindness, sympathy, friendship and love than they hunger for food. If we showed people genuine love and care, maybe they won’t be hungry in the first place.
Sometime ago I attended a funeral, and like most of the funerals all over the world, people sent in their tributes and all they had to say about the dead were very glowing and positive things and nothing negative. As I stood there listening and watching, I began to wonder, why is it that death makes us suddenly remember about the hundreds of good virtues in a man/woman who we neglected and considered faulty and not relevant while they were alive?
I have been failed a lot of times by people and I guess others may say the same about me. Sometimes people fail you or you fail people not because you do it intentionally but just because you are human and it is in your nature. Man forgets…man fails, yet many people still put their trust in man.
I hear many folks talk about their parents, family members, bosses, political leaders and the promises they made to them which make them so happy. Well guys even the most honest among us still fails, still forgets…because he is man. The only thing that is sure is God’s word. God is as good as His Word. And God’s Word is as good as He is. Do you have God’s promise? Do you have God’s Word? Then just rejoice. That is as good as having it.
One scriptural verse many people are familiar with and often refer to is “In everything do unto others what you want them to do to you…” I also hear this among non Christians. Unfortunately most of us limit the meaning of this powerful law to just “doing”, and actions. Has it cross your mind that this powerful law also refers to your thoughts and wishes concerning others?
We are to not only do unto others, but to think about others, wish for others what you want them to do to you, think about you and wish for you. If we practice this law we will find more love and harmony among people; there will be less bickering, hate, jealousy and envy as all you will be having for others are thoughts, wishes and actions of love and you will get same in return too. Continue reading Do Unto Others What You Want Them to DO to YOu→
Some people are constantly looking for opportunities to criticize and complain about others. Nothing is ever good in their eyes. I meet some of these people most of the time, they complain about the weather, the traffic, the food and so on. Recently I attended a wedding and sat close to one of these folks and in spite of the many good things one could say about a wedding, this guy kept pointing out things he didn’t like about the wedding as if he contributed a dime to the wedding.
I believe that even the worst circumstances we can always find many good things to talk about if we look for them. Your spouse isn’t bad all the time; children don’t misbehave all the time; your boss isn’t bossy all the time. Let us learn to develop the habit of looking for the best in people and in every situation we find ourselves in.
Always look for something good to praise and endorse. Look for the best around you and think good thoughts about others, knowing that your thoughts always yield results after their kind. If you want to see good in your life, think good thoughts about yourself and others. Moreover the habit of constantly seeking for the good in others and praising them will uplift our own spirits. Continue reading Use Your Words to Build, Not to Destroy→
Who should we listen to? Many of us are always looking for information and advice about our life challenges, but unfortunately we meet the wrong people for this information, and sometimes we end up worsening our situation after applying the techniques and principles we were offered.
I have seen many relationships destroyed, I have seen businesses go under, I have seen people lost jobs, I have seen people miss their purpose just by listening to the wrong people. I believe someone reading this can relate with this; if you’ve gone for counselling or attended a coaching course and still have your issues unresolved despite the amount of money you paid. – It doesn’t mean that the people aren’t qualified, but simply they are not for you.
So who then do we listen to? The best person to listen to, or talk to, or learn from concerning your situation or dreams and goals, is the person who has been where you are and who has what you desire. If you are struggling, going through challenges and poverty, but desire to be successful, you just can’t go and learn from someone who was born into wealth, someone who hasn’t known what it is like to always live on the edge, because they obviously haven’t experienced what you are going through and can’t teach you anything about rising from your position. Continue reading Who Should We Listen to?→
“Do not be deceived, God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.”
A lot of us do not pay attention to the laws governing the earth. I guess the only law many of us care to know is the law of gravity, probably because we were taught that in school. But there are many other laws in operation, with as much effect as that of Gravitational pull.
One of such laws is the law of “Cause and Effect” or as the bible calls it, “Seedtime and Harvest.” Yes – and before your mind starts wondering, this isn’t a preaching on money and giving, because many of us have come to associate “sowing seeds and harvesting” to mean parting with our money.
Friends the law of cause and effect is an unfailing boomerang. And like all laws it takes effect whether you are aware of its existence or not. It is applied in the same measure to the rich and to the poor, the lord and the subjects, everybody eats from the same bowl.
Every day I see and meet people who expect love from others but they don’t give love to others nor themselves; people expect honesty from others but they themselves are not honest; people complain about their spouse unfaithfulness to them in their marriage, but they weren’t faithful in their relationships. Continue reading What You Plant is What You Will Harvest→
There’s one common thing about people who are not doing well, or struggling financially, emotionally and generally failing in life – they don’t accept responsibility for their actions when things go wrong. I know this because I had been doing this – always ready to point my fingers at someone for any misadventure or any failure I encounter on my part. And I have noticed that it wasn’t just me, it is as become a norm in our society. You find people citizens blaming the government, and the government is always shifting their blames on the West and the developed nations for conspiring against them.
When things go wrong with us, when we miss our aims in life, most of the time you find people looking for something or someone to blame. But as a friend pointed out to me recently, blaming others for our problems and defeats in life started way back in the Garden of Eden, when God asked Adam what he had done, he said it was Eve’s fault. Then when God questioned Eve, she blamed it on the Snake.
Today when children fail examination in school, they blame it on the teachers and or the examiners. When people fail interviews or get passed on for promotion in their jobs, they blame it on their bosses. – You hear them say “my boss doesn’t like me”, or “my boss is tribalistic or partial” and so on. When peoples business are not doing well, and the prosperity they hoped to get isn’t coming, they blame it on other people – their aged parents, Uncles, Aunties, or other family who are bewitching them. When someone who clearly isn’t eating healthy foods, or living a healthy lifestyle falls sick, the blame goes to the Witches and Wizards from their communities and families. Continue reading Is it Just My Society?→