What is so obvious about your life? Is it Poverty, Joblessness, Loneliness, Broken home or a broken relationship?… I do not know what the obvious is in your life, and maybe the society has attached a label on you. You may have been called a destitute, a failure, a single Mom, a never- do well, or whatever else. Trust me I know what it feels like to have such titles and labels, to have a horrible life, but come to think of it, it’s all perception, and it took me years to realize this.
In a moment of time someone can change your paradigm, change your perception, and if you choose to take on that perception, you will win or you will lose. Like you, I had accepted the labels and almost became a looser but thank God for the new perception now.
Everyone who has ever had to rise above their lowly situation in life, or financial status has had to look beyond the obvious. Even in the bible we see titles and labels placed on people. Christ also had labels; he had been labelled a Blasphemer, but he had to look beyond the opposition and negative titles. He saw the bigger picture, the glory ahead, and his position with God when His mission on earth would have been accomplished.
If you accept the negative titles that society associates you with, if you accept the negativity that people spill on you, then you give them victory and power over your life, and you invariably become a victim in life. Now that is a very negative thing to do. You should only accept the limits placed on you by God, and that limit is a LIFE OF ABUNDANCE. “You are the salt of the earth…You are the light of the world”. You are meant to do great things. Why try so hard to fit in when you are meant to stand out? Too many of us are trying so hard to “fit in”, to “belong”, to be counted among the group or the ‘tribe’. Stop trying to fit-in, figure out how to stand out. Always aim for the sky no matter where you are, because if you aim for the sky and you hit a sky scrapper, you’re doing OK.
Looking beyond the obvious requires a shift in mentality, and it doesn’t just happen. This, like all other things in life takes repetitive practice, just like a child learning to walk, learning to swim, or ride a bike or play a sport, we fail many times during the learning/practise of these activities, but we get up and try again till we perfect the art. We never give up.
Keep in mind that people who succeed in life do not have fewer problems than people who fail, because the only people without problems are those in the cemeteries. It is not what happens to us that separate failure from success, it is how we perceive it and what we do about what happens to us that makes the difference.
Anthony Robbins said “the difference between those who succeed and those who fail isn’t what they have; it is what they choose to see.” “As far as your eyes can see, I will give to you and your children as an inheritance”- The Bible.
Choose success over failure, choose to be happy, choose to live a beautiful and above all love yourself.