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Who are your friends and how do they affect you? The relationships you have can either enhance your life or they can drain you. There are talented people who have lots of potentials in them, but because they didn’t surround themselves with other people that will inspire them to transcend themselves, they will never realize their greatness and might end up going to their graves with all their gifts still in them.
Folks you have to be selective about the people you have around as friends, because the law of average states that the result of any given situation will be the average of all the outcomes. Famous motivational speaker and Author Jim Rohn further explain this law by saying that “we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with”.
We are greatly influenced whether we like it or not by those closest to us. They affect our ways of thinking, our self esteem, and the decisions we make in life. So who are the five people in your life that you spend the most time with – your buddies? Get serious write their names down and begin to ask these critical questions about your friends, lovers, partners; who are they? What do they do with their lives? How ambitious and successful have they been? How enthusiastic are they? How happy are they?
Really take a look at your relationships, the people you are involved with, the people you communicate with most of the time and ask yourself, what am I becoming because of this relationship? Does it inspire me? Am I motivated? Am I encouraged and driven to develop myself? Am I seeking my own greatness? What kind of person am I becoming because of these relationships? Am I becoming more cynical and negative about life? If you want to become the person God created you to be, if you want to achieve the life of your dreams, you must stay away from toxic people because as Dr. Wayne Dyer says; “when you allow toxic people into your immediate energy field, you will find that your feelings of well-being diminish. Just as if you allow someone with a cold to sneeze in your face, you increase your chances of getting sick, you must be careful about whom you elect to associate with to avoid contaminating your life energy.”
Make the choice today about who you want to continue spending your time with. Even if no one among your present set of friends meet the standards and goals you set for yourself, let them GO! Don’t let a few folks keep you down. “Don’t become the average of some average people.” “You need to say goodbye albeit with unconditional love, to anyone who pollutes your life space with slowed down energy”.