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Self-consciousness a Killer of Dreams

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“For God has not given us a spirit of timidity but one or power, love, and self-discipline.”

We all of have lofty dreams, vision, plans, desires, of doing great things with our lives, but so many of us are held back from undertaking what we long to do, and are stuck where we are, unable to make our dreams come true because we are shy of facing people, or we are too sensitive of what others may say about us, or we think we are not good enough.  Thus our lofty plans exist only in our minds.

Self- consciousness and timidity are great enemies of success. A lot of men and women have missed great opportunities in life because of these two.  So many potential award winning singers and artists have died without the world benefiting from their talents because of timidity and self-consciousness. They had great dreams and talents, but they never trusted their dreams to the real world of action, because they were afraid of failure, and of how people will react to them.

“A sensitive person feels that, whatever he does, wherever he goes, or whatever he says, he is the centre of observation. He imagines that people are criticizing his movements, making fun at his expense, or analyzing his character, when they are probably not thinking of him at all.  He does not realize that other people are too busy and too much interested in themselves and other things to devote to him any of their time beyond what is absolutely necessary.”

Self-consciousness leads to mediocrity because no one ever does anything, until he or she feels that they are a part of something greater than themselves. Folks, self-consciousness isn’t humility. If you think always hiding in the crowd and not giving your life an expression is a show of humility, you are wrong. “Humility isn’t does not require mediocrity.” By insisting that you are just this or that, or that you will never amount to anything much, in the name of humility you talk yourself down to a state of non-accomplishment Continue reading Self-consciousness a Killer of Dreams

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Give Yourself Little Room To Fail

Some of us are too hard on ourselves. When it comes to our lives, goals, activities, we just want perfection. If you are one of those perfect human beings who always keep every resolution you make, and are in complete control of your activities and goals, more power to you. Personally, I still struggle with my resolutions and goals, and I believe it’s only natural to make mistakes, to fail in life. So if you find you are having problems keeping those rules you made with yourself, you are not alone.

Folks, don’t get too rigid on yourselves, allow little room to fail and make mistakes, because when you strive for perfection, to always be 100% efficient, it often leads to a life of misery when you fail. The resulting shame and guilt makes you judge yourself as unworthy; as good for nothing.

Truly great people always accept their flaws and inadequacies. They smile when they fail instead of feeling shame and guilt. They know that each failure often leads them straight to success. Failure is part of life, and he who must succeed must learn to fail.

While we may look at ourselves as being strong, intelligent, and highly advanced, we are still flesh… and like the Bible says, the flesh is weak. God knows you will fail, even in pleasing Him that’s why he allowed grace and mercy for you. As you journey towards greatness and success, don’t lose heart when you fail or make mistakes. Also try to empathize rather than condemn and criticize others when they fail also.

Live your greatest life! Give yourself little room to fail.

Choose Your Friends

The most important thing in life is a friend, yet most of us do not take the time to choose our friends. It has been said that how far we go in life would be determined by the books we read and the friends we keep. So if you want to reach great heights in life you need to have friends who believe in you and inspire you to get there.

Who are your friends? A man is judged by the quality of his friends. If you hang around and become friends with negative, pessimistic folks, you will become negative and pessimistic, there by living a life below your potentials because we are the average of the people we spend our time with.

Some of us go about trying to be friends with everybody. Folks you can’t live your life that way, it’s not in the hoard of friends you have, but the quality of friends you keep. Friends ought to be carefully chosen and kept. Some of the people we call friends today are not suppose to be around us, we ought to keep them far from us, some may be good for correspondence, some should be mere acquaintances. The path to success requires that you take total control of your thoughts, words and actions. You don’t need to be around toxic people, who are always casting doubts and bursting your dreams. The bible says; “Do not be deceived; evil company corrupts good manners”. You have worked and given so much to get to this point, don’t let negative and toxic people pull you backwards.

As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. Proverbs 27: 17(NKJV) “The insight of a true friend is more useful than the goodwill of others” Gain your friends by choice, not by chance, or circumstances. “A wise friend wards off worries, a foolish one brings them about.” Good friends are few, if you have them, keep them, as to keep is more important than to make new ones.