You Have Yourself to Blame

It is really intriguing why we often fail to accept responsibilities in life. People hardly want to accept responsibilities for the failings and misadventures in their lives. We blame our Parents, Spouses, Children, Friends, Bosses, Colleagues, Employees, Enemies, our pets, and every other thing but ourselves. The truth is nobody can hinder you from doing what you want, if your mind is really focused on it.  And whatever reasons we may give for our failures are simply excuses, whether we want to admit it or not.

Folks no one else makes you fail, you have only have yourself to blame. True achievers, all truly great people know this truth. They accept responsibilities over their lives, only losers blame others. If you find yourself always blaming others for most of the results in your life, why don’t you try examining your actions or inactions in the events that produced the results, you may discover like I have done too many times, that you are responsible for everything that happens in your life.

Below is a beautiful poem by Mayme White Miller titled “Yourself to Blame” read it, memorize it, and let it become a part of you, because there are lots of truths in it:

If things go bad for you
And make you a bit ashamed
Often you will find out that
You have yourself to blame
Swiftly we ran to mischief
And then the bad luck came
Why do we fault others?
We have ourselves to blame
Whatever happens to us,
Here is what we say
“Had it not been for so-and-so
Things wouldn’t have gone that way.”
And if you are short of friends,
I’ll tell you what to do
Make an examination,
You’ll find the faults in you…
You are the captain of your ship,
So agree with the same
If you travel downward
You have yourself to blame

13 thoughts on “You Have Yourself to Blame”

  1. Oh no Vincent, have you forgotten how convenient it is to blame others for our troubles, and all? You are so right in your post and the quote from Dr Robert Anthony himself says it all. Responsibility for my actions means a whole lot to me; Even if I may have been abused in any situation, I want to always look at what I did or omitted to do. 🙂


    1. I love that quote myself. And true the ability to always look back at our actions or inactions, for me, is very important. No matter the roles others may play, I always like to look at what I did, because, that’s the only thing I can control or change. I can’t change or control Others’ actions. Thanks Marie!…I sent the mail, hope you received it?


  2. I love the poem! Really nicely written and extremely valid point! Taking the blame and accepting your own actions is a massive part of your personal development, and it can only be beneficial to reflect on yourself every once in a while! K x


  3. Such a great post and poem too! These days there seems to be more and more blameshifting and less and less of taking responsibility for the difficulties and the simple things in a person’s life. Very sad!


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