We don’t live alone in this world. We live in companionships, in families, in friendships, in churches, in communities and to do that require our ability to get along with others. Yet there are some of us who complain about the difficulty of getting along with others.
These type of people are very good on their own, and when alone, where no other life comes in contact with theirs, where they are entirely their own master and have to think only of themselves, and where they can have their own way, who yet make most wretched business of living when they come into living with others.
Unfortunately this seems to be the new code in the world today. Too many messages abound that praise and encourage people to be selfish, tyrannical, absorbing, despotic, and wilful. People are being encouraged to not brook suggestions, request or authority. All around us we find people who will not make any compromise, will not yield their own opinions, preferences, or prejudices, will not submit to any inconveniences, or any sacrifice. Continue reading What it Takes to Be in Love→
One of the saddest things in life is the fact that people measure themselves by their weaknesses instead of their strengths. They look at themselves and underrate their true capacities and what they can achieve.
Only very few people realize just how much self-confidence, and self-belief is a great creative force because you accomplish things in life almost to the exact proportion to your inner belief. In the course of my work as a coach, I meet with a lot of people who have everything it takes to succeed, yet they don’t, or whatever they achieve pales in comparison to what they can truly accomplish.
One of the causes of this inner self-doubt and a lack of confidence is always comparing yourself with others; thinking others are better gifted, and qualified than you are. I hear people say that their lack of a university degree, or a masters degree keeps them away from success.
While I believe that having a good education is important, it does instils some level of confidence in you, I don’t believe that your success depends on it. But if you are sensitive on this question of a lack of education, assume as close as possible, the attitude of an educated person. Never tell anyone of your educational deficiencies. Get knowledge. Educate yourself, but don’t let the fact that you failed to spend four years on a campus kill your ambitions. Continue reading The 2 Things Hindering Your Personal Achievement→
Our business in life is not to get ahead of other people, but to get ahead of ourselves. To break our own record, to outstrip our yesterdays by todays, to bear our trials more beautifully than we ever dreamed we could, to whip the tempter inside and out as we never whipped him before, to give as we never have given, to do our work with more force and a finer finish than ever,—this is the true idea,—to get ahead of ourselves.
To beat someone else in a game, or to be beaten, may mean much or little. But to beat our own game means a great deal, whether we win or not, we are playing better than we ever did before, and that’s the point after all—to play a better game of life.
We often think that if we had that person’s means or that person’s ability or that man’s opportunity, we could do something worth doing; but, as we are, there is no possibility of us doing anything great.
Yet God does not want us to fill any other man’s place, or to do any other man’s work. God wants us to improve our own opportunity with the possessions and the powers that He has given us. It is very important if you must truly live, to do the best you can with what you have, where you are.
You are not expected to do more than this, nor do you have the right to do any less. One of the costliest mistakes people make is to think that success is as a result of genius or some special talent, or magic – something or talent they don’t possess in them. That is wrong thinking that you must purge out from your mind.
Success in anything in life is generally due to holding one, persistently trying hard until you succeed. Your success today begins with you making a decision, to do something, anything and working on it long enough. But it starts with a decision from you. The decision that nothing can overrule, the grip that nothing can detach, will bring success.