There’s one common thing about people who are not doing well, or struggling financially, emotionally and generally failing in life – they don’t accept responsibility for their actions when things go wrong. I know this because I had been doing this – always ready to point my fingers at someone for any misadventure or any failure I encounter on my part. And I have noticed that it wasn’t just me, it is as become a norm in our society. You find people citizens blaming the government, and the government is always shifting their blames on the West and the developed nations for conspiring against them.
When things go wrong with us, when we miss our aims in life, most of the time you find people looking for something or someone to blame. But as a friend pointed out to me recently, blaming others for our problems and defeats in life started way back in the Garden of Eden, when God asked Adam what he had done, he said it was Eve’s fault. Then when God questioned Eve, she blamed it on the Snake.
Today when children fail examination in school, they blame it on the teachers and or the examiners. When people fail interviews or get passed on for promotion in their jobs, they blame it on their bosses. – You hear them say “my boss doesn’t like me”, or “my boss is tribalistic or partial” and so on. When peoples business are not doing well, and the prosperity they hoped to get isn’t coming, they blame it on other people – their aged parents, Uncles, Aunties, or other family who are bewitching them. When someone who clearly isn’t eating healthy foods, or living a healthy lifestyle falls sick, the blame goes to the Witches and Wizards from their communities and families. Continue reading Is it Just My Society?→
I have always had a dread of becoming a passenger in life. -Margareth II, Queen of Denmark
These words of this great woman really jolted me, as I look around and see so many of us who haven’t achieved much in life, who are not following their dreams, yet we are so comfortable becoming passengers in life’s buses going nowhere.
Many of us have become what Zig Ziglar called wondering generalities. We are just wondering about from one job the other, from one marriage to another, from one relationship to another, from one course of study to another, without knowing what we want to do with our lives.
Some of you are in marriages and relationships because you were told that’s the right choice to make, for the sake of the family, or to look responsible in the society and so on. Yet you are miserable in that relationship but you have to put up the appearance and stay in it to please the society. Some of you are in jobs that make you miserable but you staying there because you because of the temporal security it offers, or because you are afraid of what people will think, you are like the drug junkie who knows the pills are killing him but won’t let go of the habit. Continue reading Are You driving or Being Driven?→
There is a particular phrase in the bible I like so much. It is, “It came to pass.” Many bible parables and key activities begin with that phrase. It signifies a fulfilment of a certain prophecy or an end of an era. But to me it shows me that there is always an end to any situation one is experiencing.
Life is full of problems, sometimes it’s as if all we get from life is difficulty, challenges, sicknesses, and one form of pain or the other. But the good news is nothing lasts forever. That problem you are encountering has a life span. “Every mountain has a peak. Every valley has its low point. Life has its ups and downs, its peaks and its valleys. No one is up all the time, nor are they down all the time. Problems do end. They do go away. They are all resolved in time.” – Robert Schuller.
Friends it doesn’t matter how long you’ve had your challenge; whether it’s 1 month, 6 months, 1 year, 2 years…6 years or for as long as you remember. It will pass one day. All we need is to hold on in faith that nothing last forever on this earth, and that that problem too shall come to pass. Remember after every storm is sunshine, after the winter is spring. Great things are going to show up in your life once again if you hold on. Continue reading It Shall Pass→
These days it’s all about “bigness.” Everyone one talks about big dreams; big ideas; big goals. We are always told to admire and model our lives after those people who conceive great ideas and successfully bring them to reality. Every young lady dreams of marrying or dating some rich man. Every young man thinks in millions and billions.
While nothing absolutely is wrong with such thinking anyway, many of us who are so engrossed in the thinking and talking big fail to consider the small things that make great things or a great life possible. The fact is we cannot all think in millions, and we cannot all aspire to vast achievements. But this is no reason why we should despise ourselves or look down upon ourselves because our daily work and our life may not be doing great things.
Are you doing small work? Are you earning little pay compared to others you know? Friends don’t let that discourage or sadden you. Thank God you at least have something small to do. Whatever your hands find to do however small it may seem, is important before God. The bible commands, “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might…” “If you have a little garden, it is not un-worthy of your care and attention to make it bright with flowers for the joy of your family and your friends. If you live in a small house, you can be proud of that house if it is a perfect home in miniature.” Continue reading What’s Wrong With Beginning Small?→
One of the greatest of challenges some of us face in life today is success. Just because we have attained some of our goals, we forget about everything else, the discipline and the sacrifices we made to get to where we are. We let down our guard, forget about the grace of God that brought us thus far, and become so complacent, thinking we will never fall.
We become like the rich man in the parable of “the Rich Fool” Jesus shared in the scriptures, who after his farm yielded an abundant harvest, said he will tear down his barns and build bigger ones to accommodate his new found riches, and then spend the rest of his life enjoying his wealth…But like we are told, he didn’t live to see what happened to all he had acquired.
A wise man once sated, “the greatest enemy of tomorrow’s success is today’s…
It takes a lot of courage to begin something; a project; a relationship; a new business; a course of study and so on. It also takes a lot of courage to persist in a task, a dream, an assignment that’s why there are far more starters and few finishers.
But I have also observed that it takes a greater amount of courage to let go of something, or a person that you are convinced has failed, after you’ve put in so much time, energy, resources, and sacrificed everything you’ve got to get to the point you are. But in life we need to learn to develop the courage to let go sometimes, as it is dangerous to hold on to something that has failed.
Some of us are in relationships that are not bringing us happiness any longer. We complain about our partners’ attitude toward us, we are sick of the relationship, yet we are too scared to let go – because we fear we may not find another person soon, or we buy into the false idea that all guys and ladies are the same, “the Devil you know is better than the Angel you don’t know.
That kind of thinking is failure thinking. Folks nothing stimulates, inspires and increases performance in a person’s life like being in the right relationship. Have the courage to let go of any relationship that makes you feel weak and valueless. Continue reading Too Afraid to Quit?→
Today is my birthday. And as I look back at my life, the years I have spent so far, all I can say is that, if not for God’s grace and hand upon me, I would have long been gone. God’s been good to me, and I really lack the words to express my gratitude to Him.
Two years ago, God made me discover the reasons why I had to go through the challenges I went through in life; why I had to suffer heartbreaks and disappointments; why I had to fail in my ventures; why I had to experience so many delays in my life. Then he gave me a message to inspire people to live their greatest life…which is what I try to do with my blog.
I am grateful to you my followers….to all of you who have been a part of this blog since 2013 when I set out on my journey. God bless you all. Today I have a dream, a dream to take my message of hope and inspiration to my community and country via the radio by starting an inspirational talk show. Continue reading Let’s Take This Walk→