We all experience setbacks, mistakes and road blocks in life, whether it is in our relationship, businesses, jobs, education or whatever else. But for some reasons, some of us tend to take these negative experiences personally. We carry our past mistakes and failures around like an infected wound.
There’s never a person alive who doesn’t make mistakes or who haven’t failed at some point in their lives. But the truly successful people have been able to let go and learn from their mistakes. And that is what you must do too.
Folks don’t let that past failure, that error in judgement, that marital or relationship infidelity, that sour deal, that loss of money, that loss of friendship, that loss of job, that business failure, that loan denial, that accident define who you are. Learn from it and move on! Continue reading Never Let Mistakes Define Who You Are→
Consider this truth: “You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.” What a profound truth!
There is something greater in you than that which is holding you back from your ambition, which is keeping you in poverty, which is thwarting your desire for an education.
There is something in you that is bigger than any negative circumstance or setback, than anything which opposes your growth in life. This power that works inside you is independent of fire or flood, of hard times or failure.
There is something in you that can rise above sickness, above disease, above poverty, above everything that would hinder you from becoming the man or the woman you were created to become, from achieving your dreams and goals.
It is inside you. Just reach in and tap into that force!
Unhappiness comes when we put our hopes and trust in our fellow humans instead of putting them on God and ourselves. When we are able to eradicate this need of others and begin to believe that our lives direction is determined by God and our own efforts, we will see how happy we become despite the circumstances we find ourselves.
I can tell you this because I have been a victim of this. There were times, a few years ago when I blamed my family for my situation. I felt unloved and held bitterness in my heart, and the result was my lack of progress.
You see the fact is, you can never move forward when you are dwelling in the past when you are heavily laden with burdens because the mind needs to be totally free for it to think clearly.
A couple of weeks back I met a lady who still blamed her situation on a failed relationship of 5 years back. She went on lamenting and blaming the guy for being responsible for her still being single because he left her for another. The guy is obviously not aware of this and had moved on from then to start his own family, yet she was still stuck in that chapter of her life. Continue reading How To Have An Unhappy Life→
Today it has become so natural for us to blame our mistakes and failures, ill health, unfavourable circumstances and conditions, our unhappiness and our disappointments in all the walks of life on “fate!” How prone we are to attribute our ills and failures to some external factor or cause, when the real cause lies within ourselves!
This is simply because we have become so used to thinking that the causes which control and shape our lives are external and such as can be measured by the physical senses. We have become so used to considering everything from a material standpoint—perceiving only that which can be weighed in the balance of human intelligence or measured with scales and metre rule that we have actually grown into the belief that the things which govern our lives and control our destiny are external.
We have been conditioned to live a material life, and have become grossly in materialism, that we have lost sight almost entirely of the higher, spiritual and more potential forces by and through which our lives and our destinies are controlled.
In this new year, too many people still believe in fate and horoscopes. They believe that what will be, will be and they don’t have control over how the year will turn out to be. Folks from my standpoint, there is no such thing as “fate” and nothing ever “happens.” Scientists, psychologists, and even the Bible show that to a greater extent, the cause of whatever comes to any person lies within the person. Continue reading This Year Will Become What You Make of It→
Learn to take advantage of your neighbours, friends, relatives and associates, and get the best of them. Now, don’t be shocked. Let me explain. In every respectable person you know there are desirable traits of character. In every loving friend, there are qualities that you need.
Our associations influence us whether we believe it or not. And the late Jim Rohn said, and this has been widely proven by the way, “we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.”
Take advantage of your associations with these good people, select the best there is in their natures, and embody their virtues in yourself. Never mind their faults. You have enough of your own. You will find what you are looking for. You will embody what you recognize and admire; therefore look for the elements of success and admire and cherish the virtues of your friends.
Last week I was with a group of people, and while I was sharing some ideas with them, someone moved next to me and said, “Vincent I know you are an inspirational speaker and you always encourage people to stay positive and all, but I am going to watch you. I live close to you. I am going to find all your weak points and detect your meanness.” Continue reading Always Get the Best of People→
God knows the full details of your life; who you are, where you are going, and why you are here. And you must trust Him. A verse in the Bible helps us understand that God has amazing plans for you; plans that include prosperity and peace and to give you a great future. Another verse tells us that God will always be there for you, helping you in every step of the way.
Your belief and trust in God are paramount in your discovery of your deﬁnite purpose in life because it is through your faith that God will do everything for you and in you. “However, if the enemy of your soul can cause you to doubt these things, then he can attack the validity and necessity of your existence, which then leads to anxiety and depression.
Trusting the God who created you to guide you through this earth is where the rubber meets the road. And like a great friend of mine, Nikki Bless shared on her Facebook post recently; “When God led the children of Israel through the desert, they didn’t have a map or a compass or a smartphone with built-in GPS telling them when to turn. They didn’t even know where they were going. All they knew was that they were supposed to leave Egypt. As they obeyed and followed God, He took care of them. When they ran into a dead end at the Red Sea, He opened a road for them right through the water. When they were hungry, He dropped food from the sky. When they were thirsty, He poured water from a rock. When they didn’t know which way to go, He put a cloud in front of them to lead the way.” Continue reading No One Knows You Better Than God→
It is easy to find too many people complaining about a lack of resources, lack of opportunities to make money and become rich in life. Folks like that are always looking for help outside of themselves. They think out there, is where the inspiration and solution lies, but as John Milton tells us, “There is nothing that makes men rich and strong but that which they carry inside of them. Wealth is of the heart, not of the hand.” We can go a step further and say that wealth of the heart rightly expressed will ensure physical wealth.
The secret of all great folks is found in their vision hours. They create time intentionally to dream and visualize their desires. God told Abraham in the Bible, to visualize and dream about his future, and how big or small his vision will determine what God will grant him. I notice that too many people don’t have any vision for their lives, they don’t dream, they are just reality focused.
I remember visiting a resort, owned by a very wealthy individual. I had heard so much about the place and the owner but never met him. So during that trip, I decided to spend time in the resort’s chapel. On entering there, I was surprised to see an old man in his 80s already in there meditating and writing down his thoughts in a journal so early in the morning. Continue reading Low Aspirations Lead to a Low Life!→
Our business in life is not to get ahead of other people, but to get ahead of ourselves. To break our own record, to outstrip our yesterdays by todays, to bear our trials more beautifully than we ever dreamed we could, to whip the tempter inside and out as we never whipped him before, to give as we never have given, to do our work with more force and a finer finish than ever,—this is the true idea,—to get ahead of ourselves.
To beat someone else in a game, or to be beaten, may mean much or little. But to beat our own game means a great deal, whether we win or not, we are playing better than we ever did before, and that’s the point after all—to play a better game of life.
It is always natural for us to hold on to our grieves, our troubles, our convictions and so on, wanting to deal with them ourselves, instead of giving them up to God and allowing him stir our lives in the direction he deems right and perfect for us.
The fact is, when we are willing to give up our frightened and uncertain sense of things and let the God govern and direct us, then we discover that “all things work together for the good of them that love God.”
When we are willing to relinquish our present views, even though we may believe we are right and others are wrong, we will find that God is ready and active to adjust everything in our favour.
It may sometimes seem hard when we feel that we are oppressed or imposed upon, to stop resisting, but if we have strong faith in the ability of God to adjust all things to our good, we should be glad of the opportunity to relinquish our claims and place our trust in the power of God to adjust all things to our good according to His word.
Perhaps you may have been wrongfully treated and you think it is right for you react and not let go and let God, yet after reading this, you are thinking; what then are we to do when we find ourselves involved in a controversy, in a dispute, or in an unpleasant situation of any kind? What are we to do when we have been attacked and maligned, misrepresented or abused? Should we not return in kind what has been done to us?
It is my belief that it will not avail us any good if we fight back when we are being mistreated. We simply show our human weakness when we take the matter into our own hands and attempt either to punish our enemies or to extricate ourselves through any virtue of our own.
In the Sermon on the Mount, that wonderful message which he left for the guidance of all humanity, Jesus said, “But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.” In other words, is it not better to be smitten twice than to fight back? He further adds, “If any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.” Even if we are unjustly deprived of what rightfully belongs to us, is it not better to suffer a second invasion than to fight back?